Healthy Relationship News – April 2013







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Knot Yet Knot Yet – The Benefits and Costs of Delayed Marriage in America


One of the major demographic and social changes of the last four decades has been the dramatic increase in the average age at which Americans first marry. Delayed marriage in America has helped to bring the divorce rate down since 1980 and increased the economic fortunes of educated women, according to Knot Yet: The Benefits and Costs of Delayed Marriage in America, a new report sponsored by the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, and the RELATE Institute.  


But another major consequence of this change is that a majority of young parents under 30 now have their first child before they marry. Knot Yet explores the causes and consequences of this revolution in family composition.




Some fascinating facts, graphs and insights from Knot Yet: The Benefits and Costs of Delayed Marriage in America.  

  1. The average age for childbearing is now younger than the average age for marriage.  
  2.  We are very near the “tipping point” when most births will happen out of wedlock.  
  3. Most unwed mothers are not teen mothers.  
  4. Women who wait until age 30 to marry make much more money.  
  5. That’s not true for men, however.  
  6. Cohabitation has skyrocketed.  
  7. 39 percent of cohabitating couples who have a child break up within 5 years.  
  8.  It used to be only that college-educated women waited to marry. Now it’s everyone.  
  9. Culturally, marriage has moved from “cornerstone” to “capstone”.



“…we should figure out more ways to convince young people that their decisions will greatly influence whether they avoid poverty and enter the middle class. Let politicians, schoolteachers and administrators, community leaders, ministers and parents drill into children the message that in a free society, they enter adulthood with three major responsibilities: at least finish high school, get a full-time job and wait until age 21 to get married and have children“.  



Science Daily

Parent-Child Violence Leads to Teen Dating Violence, Study Suggests   


Teens today are involved in intimate relationships at a much younger age and often have different definitions of what is acceptable behavior in a relationship. Violence is something that is all too common and according to researchers at Iowa State it is a reflection of the relationships teens have with their parents or their parent’s partner.




Teen romance may have been dissected a million ways by popular culture, but that dubious analysis pales in comparison to a recent study that followed the arc of teen dating from grades 6 to 12.


“We see four trajectories,” says Pamela Orpinas, a professor of behavioral research at the University of Georgia and the lead author of the study, which included 600 students. “Some kids never or hardly ever dated; some kids did not date during middle school and started dating during high school. Others dated all the time-or at least that’s what they reported. And others reported dating all the time in sixth grade, and then decreased, and then increased again.”


The Journal Gazette

Teen Dating Abuse Has Gone Digital   

In another mark of the increasingly digital life of teenagers, more than 25 percent of those who dated said their love interests threatened or harassed them online or using texts, according to a new study said to be the most comprehensive look at the phenomenon.


In the study, published online this month in the Journal of Youth and Adolescence, researchers concluded that digital technology was not the cause of abuse by teens in a relationship, but it provided a 24/7 platform for abuse, often outside the view of adults. 


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Newly Updated!     


What's Real What’s Real – Myths and Facts about Marriage 


Young people may not be thinking about marriage right now, but research shows that almost all of them aspire to a happy marriage and family in the future. Unfortunately, few have adequate knowledge about how to reach these goals. For many teens, expectations are shaped, not by facts, but by street wisdom, relentless exposure to media fantasies, and poor role models.


The just revised What’s Real offers a helpful alternative. The 7 hour-long lessons guide young people toward realistic views and strategies for lasting relationships.




Building Brighter Futures with Dibble programs 


Enjoy this video featuring students and teachers from CCEO YouthBuild in Los Angeles!


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Dibble Webinars   

Integrating Relationship Education Into Health Classes


We usually teach young people how to protect their bodies, but we seldom help them to protect their hearts. Health classes are an important forum for lowering teens’ risks and helping them set goals to reach their aspirations – but the concepts can be difficult to communicate.


In this webinar attendees learn:

  • how the healthy relationship skills program, Healthy Choices, Healthy Relationships, (HCHR) meets National Health and Sex Education Standards from author and educator, Charlene Kamper.
  • how Kathy Schleier, from Dalton, GA, connected with Health teachers by meeting their needs and frameworks and is teaching HCHR in high school Health classes.

Guest presenters: Charlene Kamper, MA, CFLE, Kathy Schleier, PNP


When: Wednesday, April 10, 2013  

4:00 pm Eastern/1:00 pm Pacific 


Duration: 60 minutes  


Who: Middle school and high school health and FACS teachers, grantees in pregnancy prevention, Healthy Marriage grantees, and community service centers.


Cost: Free!


Register Now!   



Special Bonus Webinar!  

Friday, April 26, 2013  

The Next Generation:

Integrating Sex Ed with Relationship Ed

Love Notes v2.0 is an integrated approach that embeds pregnancy, STI, and interpersonal violence prevention into a comprehensive relationship skills program. Typically those goals are served by separate programs all operating within their own paradigms. Love Notes is a new approach to many persistent problems.

Attendees will learn:
  • how to present medically accurate bio-reproductive, STD, birth control and condom information in engaging ways that employ multi-media while at the same time build up critical healthy relationship knowledge and skills.
  • new ways to motivate youth to clarify sexual values and intentions and use formal planning frameworks for those choices.

Guest Presenter: Marline Pearson, author of Love Notes v2.0 and Love U2: Relationships Smarts PLUS

When:  Friday, April 26, 2013 11:00 a.m. Eastern/ 8:00 a.m. Pacific

Duration: 60 minutes

Who:  Pregnancy Prevention program directors, pregnant and parenting student instructors, family and consumer sciences teachers, health and sex ed teachers, workforce development staff, re-entry program leaders, transitional living coordinators, fatherhood and marriage grantees.


Cost: Free!


Register Now!  


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Office of Adolescent Health  

Pregnancy Assistance Fund 


The Department of Health and Human Services’ Office of Adolescent Health (OAH) has announces the availability of funding “for competitively awarded grants for the development and implementation of programs for expectant and parenting teens, women, fathers, and their families“.  


Some of the stated goals of the grant are to:  


“implement programs to improve child and maternal health outcomes; improve pregnancy planning, strengthen co-parenting relationships and marriage where appropriate, decrease intimate partner violence and raise awareness of available resources.”  


Allowable activities include:

– Education to improve parenting skills, including teaching mothers and fathers about the developmental needs of infants and young children, and how to relate to each other and strengthen relationships or marriages where appropriate.  

– Healthy Relationships  

– Financial literacy  


Let us know how we can help you craft a strong application with evidence based and informed materials, staff training, logic models and more.  


Letters of intent are due March 15th and full applications on April 10th.




Research and Evaluation on Violence Against Women: Teen Dating Violence, Sexual Violence, and Intimate Partner Violence 


NIJ seeks applications for research related to teen dating violence (also known as adolescent relationship abuse). In particular, NIJ is seeking proposals that support postdoctoral fellows to analyze existing data or collect new data on teen dating violence in understudied populations.  


Research proposed may be focused at the Federal, State, local, tribal, juvenile justice policy, and practice levels. Deadline April 22, 2013.  


Grants Address Poverty Issues in South Carolina



Sisters of Charity Foundation of South Carolina


Sisters of Charity Foundation of South Carolina: Caritas Fund


The Sisters of Charity Foundation of South Carolina works continually to address the needs of the poor and underserved in South Carolina. The Foundation’s Caritas Fund provides grants to nonprofit organizations and faith-based agencies based in South Carolina that provide outreach services in order to meet the basic needs of the poor. The first Caritas Fund application deadline for 2013 is April 2.



Domestic Violence Shelters Funded

The Mary Kay Foundation – Shelter Grant Program 


The Mary Kay Foundation is committed to ending the epidemic of domestic violence by providing grants to women’s shelters throughout the United States. Applying organizations must offer immediate overnight housing to women and children affected by domestic violence. The grants provided by the Foundation may be used for the operating budget of the shelter, with the exception of staff travel. Applications will be accepted from January 15 to April 30, 2013. Visit the Foundation’s website to review the funding guidelines and download the application forms.  


(Editor’s Note: Teaching healthy relationship skills, drawing the line of respect, and exiting relationships safely are educational programs often in a shelter’s operating budget. The application asks about innovative programs and teaching survivors how to get smart about their love lives would certainly be one!)


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Where is Dibble now?

Come see us!


April 12, 2013

Grand Isle, NE

Workshop: What Is Your Money Habitude?
Presenter: Joyce Huff


April 14-17, 2013

2013 Best Practices Forum on Dropout Prevention 

Kansas City, MO


– What Is Your Money Habitude?

– Building Relationships and Connections

Presenter: Joyce Huff


April 16-17, 2013

Indiana Family and Consumer Science Conference  

Indianapolis, IN

Roundtable: New Resources for You From The Dibble Institute

Presenter: Irene Varley


April 17-19, 2013

 Ohio Association of Family, Career and Community Leaders of America Conference  

Columbus, Ohio

Workshop: Things to Know Before You Say Go

Presenter: Irene Varley


April 24-26, 2013

Denton, TX
Workshop:  The Missing Link: Preventing Child Abuse by Teaching Teens Relationship Skills
Presenter:  Janet Pozmantier

May 15-17, 2013

Adolescent Pregnancy and Prevention Campaign of North Carolina 

Greensboro, NC

Workshop: Charting a Path To Making Decisions about Sex and Healthy Relationships

Presenter: Dixie Zittlow


May 20-22, 2013

3rd Annual Teen Pregnancy Prevention Grantee Program 

Washington D.C. 

Workshop: The Power of Integrating Pregnancy Prevention & Healthy Relationships Education 

Panelist: Marline Pearson

May 29-31, 2013

Second Annual PREP Grantee Conference  

Baltimore, MD  

Workshop: Integrating Adult Preparation Topics-A Key to Strengthening Pregnancy Prevention 

Panelist: Marline Pearson

June 26-29, 2013

American Association of Family and Consumer Sciences National Conference

Houston, Texas

Workshop: What’s in Your Wallet? Using EQ Strategies to Build Financial Resiliency

Presenter: Janet Pozmantier


July 14-15, 2013

Kentucky Association of Careers and Technical Education 

Louisville, KY


– What are Your Money Habitudes?

– Things to Know Before You Say Go

Presenter: Nancy Lenk

July 22-24, 2013
 Missouri Association of Career and Technical Conference
Springfield, MO
Workshop:  What Is Your Money Habitude?
Presenter:  Joyce Huff

July 30-August 1, 2013
Family and Consumer Science Educators of Michigan
Frankenmuth, MI
Keynote Speaker:  Kay Reed
Our Love Lives Are Not Neutral: How family connections matter more than you think!
– Connecting Healthy Teen Relationships to Teen Wellness
– Kick Your Classroom and FCCLA Chapter into Gear with Excitement and Energy
Presenter:  Nancy Lenk

August 25-30, 2013
National Association for Relationship and Marriage Education
Anaheim, CA
Workshop:  Parenting through the Eyes of the Child
Presenter: Dixie Zittlow
Workshop: Relationality – The Amazingly Real to Life Research-Based Games about Relationships
Presenter:  Rebecca Brooks


Would you like a Dibble Outreach Educator at your conference? Email Irene Varley, Director of Education, at to find out how.


Please let us know if you are having an open to the public event featuring Dibble curricula. We would be happy to help you publicize it.


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