Healthy Relationship News – August 2013





Managing Conflict: Addressing the Four Communication Danger Signs




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Report Assesses Well-Being of America’s Children


The Federal Interagency Forum on Child and Family Statistics has released “America’s Children: Key National Indicators of Well-Being, 2013”. The report features statistics on children and families in the United States across 41 key indicators, including family and social environment, economic circumstances, health care, physical environment and safety, behavior, education, and health.  


Read the full report online.





Many of us continue to be concerned about violence in our country and its effect on our children. We work to promote behaviors and develop skills that can end the cycle of violence: social awareness, self-management, relationship skills, and responsible decision-making. As Laura Morgan argues in her personal and moving article, Teach Social-Emotional Learning for Better Schools, Safer Neighborhoods, Social- Emotional Learning (SEL) is a “ray of hope” in the face of violence. (From Edutopia)



New York Times

Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game, Too 


At 11 on a weeknight earlier this year, her work finished, a slim, pretty junior at the University of Pennsylvania did what she often does when she has a little free time. She texted her regular hookup – the guy she is sleeping with but not dating. What was he up to? He texted back: Come over. So she did. They watched a little TV, had sex and went to sleep.  


Their relationship, she noted, is not about the meeting of two souls.


“We don’t really like each other in person, sober,” she said, adding, “we literally can’t sit down and have coffee.”




Marriage on the Rocks: Economic and Social Consequences for Kids 


It is usually assumed that marriage and family are the bedrock on which societies are built. Parents provide the necessities of life for their offspring; parents are children’s first teachers; parents provide an important part of the discipline children need to learn and thrive; parents teach values and appropriate behavior to their children; and the extended family is a source of traditions and values that provide a sense of belonging to something big.  


But after four decades of fundamental changes in the structure of American families, it is wise to consider the impacts of these changes on subsequent generations and the traditional way of American life.


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In this interview, award-winning actor and best-selling author Hill Harper tackles misconceptions about marriage, men and family … and how to strengthen relationships between black men and women.



Survey Says: National Campaign

A Ringing Endorsement 


For many, getting married and having children are two major life events. Seven in 10 Americans believe the events should happen in that order—marriage then children.



YouTube Picks

Helen Fisher: The brain in Love 


Why do we crave love so much, even to the point that we would die for it? To learn more about our very real, very physical need for romantic love, Helen Fisher and her research team took MRIs of people in love – and people who had just been dumped.


Think What’s Next – Sexting PSA 


Sending sexy pictures through text or online is pretty harmless, right? Unfortunately, many teens who have “sexted” experience a range of social, emotional, and even legal consequences. “Think What’s Next” challenges teens to think about what’s next before they sext.  


This public service announcement was produced entirely by teens for teens by Community Healthcare Network’s Teens P.A.C.T. program in New York City.



Office of Adolescent Health 

Fatherhood and Teen Dad eLearning Module 


This Office of Adolescent Health course provides an overview of important insights and data on the unique and irreplaceable role that fathers (including teen fathers) play in the well-being of their children. It equips organizations to effectively support fathers, consistently and for the long-term, and reduce the ill effects of father absence in communities.


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National Clearinghouse on Family and Youth

Research Roundup: Searching for Solutions to Teen Dating Violence  


How bad is dating violence among U.S. teens? In the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s 2011 Youth Risk Behavior Survey, nearly 1 in 10 high school students (9.4 percent) reported being hit, slapped or physically hurt on purpose by a boyfriend or girlfriend in the previous year.  


So it’s clear dating violence is a problem, but what can we do to change that? A recent review of the scientific literature on intimate partner violence sifted through several decades of research to highlight what we know so far.  


(Editor’s Note: Research on violence prevention and the Dibble program, Relationship Smarts PLUS, is cited in this research roundup.)



UGA Cooperative Extension


 UGA Cooperative Extension is making an impact in Georgia! Since 2008, 57 county Family and Consumer Sciences and 4-H Extension agents across 43 counties, as well as 104 community professionals from 10 counties have been trained by UGA Cooperative Extension in the Relationship Smarts program.  


Since 2009, the Relationship Smarts program has been offered 92 times (in part or in its entirety) and reached 2556 unique youth across 30 counties. In 2012, the RS program was offered 26 times and reached 1021 youth across 15 counties!  


Overall, participating youth have reported increases in knowledge, confidence that they can use the skills learned, likeliness to use these skills, and positive feelings about themselves.


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 Dibble Webinars 

Register Now 

Research has shown that how people communicate and handle their conflicts over time will matter greatly to the health and happiness of their relationships. Communication skills transfer to all types of relationships – work, school, peers, family and parent-child.  


This webinar will identify negative patterns acquired in every day life experiences – the Four Communication Danger Signs. An effective relationship skills program includes the identifying and resolution of these four danger signs.  


Guest presenter: Aaron Larson, Outreach Educator for The Dibble Institute  

When: Wednesday August 14, 2013 at 4:00 PM Eastern time (1:00 PM Pacific)  

Duration: 60 minutes  

Who: Teachers, Workforce Development, those working in Independent Living, Domestic Violence and Foster Care, Head Start Staff and Instructors, Social Workers, and anyone who cares about youth  

Cost: Free!


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Head Start and/or Early Head Start Grant Opportunity Announcements 


Through this announcement, the Administration for Children and Families solicits applications that seek to provide a high-quality, comprehensive birth-to-five program incorporating both Head Start and Early Head Start funding, or to provide for Head Start only or Early Head Start only, to children and families in various locations. Interested applicants may email the OHS Operations Center at for additional information.  


Successful applicants will want to address the Head Start Parent and Family Engagement Outcomes. Two of them (shown below) may be successfully addressed through relationship skills education.  

  1. FAMILY WELL-BEING Parents and families are safe, healthy, and have increased financial security.  
  2. POSITIVE PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPS – Beginning with transitions to parenthood, parents and families develop warm relationships that nurture their child’s learning and development.


If you are currently a provider of relationship skills education, you may want to review all the grant announcements to see if your service area is included. If it is, you may want to contact likely applicants to partner on a successful application. For more information on Head Start, click here.



Administration for Children and Families

HHS Releases Funding Opportunity Announcement for Competitive Abstinence Grants 


The Family and Youth Services Bureau (FYSB) is accepting applications for the Competitive Abstinence Education (CAE) program. Grantees under this program will be expected to develop a targeted and medically accurate approach to reducing teen pregnancies through abstinence education. Applications are due August 29, 2013. To view the funding opportunity announcement, click here.



Rite Aid Funds for Health and Wellness Programs in Company Communities

The Rite Aid Foundation 


The Rite Aid Foundation is dedicated to helping people in the communities the company serves lead happier, healthier lives. Support is provided to nonprofit organizations focused on the health and wellness of individuals, children and youth, and families in Rite Aid communities in 31 states. The remaining deadlines for 2013 is October 15.



Joseph and Vera Long Foundation Grants Promote Innovative Projects in Northern California and Hawaii

The Joseph & Vera Long Foundation 


The Joseph & Vera Long Foundation’s primary purpose is to support nonprofit organizations in Northern California and the state of Hawaii. The Foundation’s grantmaking categories include healthcare, education, and conservation. The Foundation has a special interest in programs which benefit women, families, and seniors, or contribute to the conservation of the natural environment.  


Preference is given to new, innovative projects that will be completed with the Foundation’s contribution. Grants in the upcoming fall cycle will range from $10,000 to $49,000. Request for Invitation (RFI) forms may be submitted online from August 19 through September 16, 2013. After the Foundation staff reviews the RFI forms, selected organizations will be invited to apply for a grant.



Black United Fund of Oregon Grants Promote Education in Oregon’s Underserved Communities

Black United Fund of Oregon 


Founded in 1983, the mission of the Black United Fund of Oregon (BUFOR) is to assist in the social and economic development of Oregon’s low-income communities, and to contribute to a broader understanding of ethnic and culturally diverse groups. BUFOR awards grants of up to $5,000 to small, local nonprofit organizations with proven track records of success in increasing opportunities and improving the social determinants of health within traditionally underserved communities.  


Funding priorities focus on projects that support the education pipeline, specifically high school completion; higher education access and completion; youth engagement with science, technology, engineering, arts, math, and the medical field; closing achievement gaps; etc. Preference will be given to grant proposals serving African American and other ethnically diverse as well as low-income, at-risk, and underserved communities.  


The application deadline is September 14, 2013.



Bush Foundation
Awards Honor Innovative Organizations in the Upper Midwest

Bush Foundation: Bush Prize for Community Innovation  


The Bush Prize for Community Innovation honors innovative nonprofit organizations with a track record of making great ideas happen in the areas the Bush Foundation serves: Minnesota, North Dakota, South Dakota and the 23 Native nations that share the same geography. The Bush Prize does not prioritize any specific issues and instead is open to community innovations that address all sorts of needs and opportunities.  


Prize winners receive promotion and recognition, along with a flexible grant of 25% of the current fiscal year program or organizational budget, up to a $500,000 grant. Applicants may identify and define their community, which could be a geographic community (e.g., a neighborhood, town, state, or Native nation), or an affinity or racial/ethnic community. The application deadline is August 15, 2013.



BBVA Compass Foundation
Funds for Programs in Bank Communities

BBVA Compass Foundation 


The BBVA Compass Foundation supports nonprofit organizations that are making a positive impact in the communities the bank serves in Alabama, Arizona, California, Colorado, Florida, New Mexico, New York, Puerto Rico, and Texas. The Foundation gives priority to requests that best reflect the following focus areas: community development/financial literacy, education, health and human services, arts and culture, environment and natural resources, and diversity and inclusion. Online applications are due September 30, 2013. (Organizations interested in applying should join one of the Charitable Contributions Process Conference Calls/Webinar Presentations held on July 26, August 16, and September 13 prior to submitting a grant request.)



Kansas Health Foundation
Health Improvement Programs for Kansans Funded

Kansas Health Foundation: Recognition Grants 


The mission of the Kansas Health Foundation is to improve the health of all Kansans. The Foundation’s Recognition Grants support a broad range of nonprofit organizations throughout the state that fit within the Foundation’s mission. In addition to supporting specific projects, the Foundation funds initiatives that focus on promoting policy, systems, and environmental transformations that affect all aspects of health, including social factors that contribute to a healthy population. Grants of up to $25,000 are provided. The upcoming application deadline is September 15, 2013.


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Where is Dibble now?

Come see us!save_the_date


August 12-13, 2013  

Wisconsin Family and Consumer Sciences 

Egg Harbor, Wisconsin

Workshop: Money Habitudes: Can’t Buy Me Love

Presenter: Dixie Zittlow


August 14, 2013  

Adult Sexual Health Conference  

Sacramento, California  

Keynote Speaker: Marline Pearson


August 27-29, 2013

National Association for Relationship and Marriage Education 

Anaheim, CA

Workshop:  Reaching Disadvantaged Youth – Love Lives Are Not Neutral

Presenter: Dixie Zittlow and Andy Delgado

Workshop: Relationality – The Amazingly Real to Life Research-Based Games about Relationships

Presenter:  Rebecca Brooks


August 27-30, 2013  

Daniel Memorial Institute  

Orlando, FL  

Workshop: Choose a Life Worth Living  

Presenter: Aaron Larson  


August 26-30, 2013  

Community Action Partnership  

Chicago, IL  

Workshop: Relationship Education: The Missing Link in Building Strong Communities  

Presenter: Irene Varley  


September 19, 2013  

Missouri Association for Career Services  

Columbia, MO  

Workshop: Healthy Relationships through (Special) Autistic Eyes

Presenter: Nancy Lenk  


October 22-25, 2013  

Healthy Teen Network  

Savannah, GA  

Workshop: What are Your Money Habitudes?  

Presenter: Joyce Huff  


October 28-29, 2013  

Washington State FACS  

Vancouver, Washington  

Workshop: Overcoming Abuses and Excuses  

Presenter: Nancy Lenk  


November 3-6, 2013  

Pathways to Promise: 25th Annual National Dropout Prevention Network  

Atlanta, Georgia  

Workshops: What Are Your Money Habitudes? and Love Notes  

Presenter: Joyce Huff


November 5-6, 2013  

Native American Fatherhood and Families Conference  

Mesa, AZ  

Workshop: The Missing Link: Relationship Education  

Presenter: Joyce Pozmantier  


Would you like a Dibble Outreach Educator at your conference? Email Irene Varley, Director of Education, at to find out how.


Please let us know if you are having an open to the public event featuring Dibble curricula. We would be happy to help you publicize it.


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