Healthy Relationship News – July 2014


  • What age do people get married in your state?
  • Marriage and the baby carriage
  • Research focuses on overlooked dads
  • Masters of Love
  • Links between family structure and child health


  • Relationship Smarts PLUS wins national award
  • Hot off the Press!! Hip Hop Dating Guide Activity Book


  • “I Know How You Feel” Empathy Lesson
  • Building Blocks Competency Model


  • Beyond the Feds – Proven Fundraising Strategies for Healthy Relationship Programs




What Age Do People Get Married in Your State?

With wedding season getting into swing, one will likely notice that trends and traditions vary greatly from wedding to wedding. One thing that we’ve been curious about is the age at which an average American will get married for the first time.

Are there regional or state influences? What seems like the right age for an average New Yorker might be way off for someone living in Idaho, for example. Whatever the explanation, be it religious values, state laws, cultural spirit, or a combination of the three, it seems that the “norm” really depends on where you live.


Marriage and The Baby Carriage

The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy has some new data on teens’ aspirations for marriage and childbearing. Check out their latest
Survey Says and great infographics.

Here is the Reader’s Digest version!

Most teens still aspire to get married and most plan on having a child. IN THAT ORDER. However, teens seem more confident that they will get married than that they will become parents.


Innovative research focuses on family role of overlooked dads

Psychologists often focus on role of mothers in children’s development. Writer
Paul Raeburn asks: when it comes to raising children, what does dad have to do with it?

Dads are not just a second-income in a family, he says, but their role in children’s psychological development has been overlooked. Raeburn’s book
“Do Fathers Matter? What Science Is Telling Us About the Overlooked Parent”, delves into the effects an active, present father has on his children. He found recent research that suggests that fathers’ love and involvement is a crucial factor in children’s well-being, particularly in his sons’ and daughters’ teenage years.

The Atlantic

Masters of Love

Science says lasting relationships come down to—you guessed it—kindness and generosity.

Every day in June, the most popular wedding month of the year, about 13,000 American couples will say “I do,” committing to a lifelong relationship that will be full of friendship, joy, and love that will carry them forward to their final days on this earth.

Except, of course, it doesn’t work out that way for most people. The majority of marriages fail, either ending in divorce and separation or devolving into bitterness and dysfunction. Of all the people who get married, only three in ten remain in healthy, happy marriages, as psychologist Ty Tashiro points out in his book
The Science of Happily Ever After
, which was published earlier this year.

Family matters: Links between family structure and early child health

This paper reviews the research of the past two decades that addresses the relationship between family structure and early child health outcomes. Specifically, we focus on family structure’s influence on child health during pregnancy, birth, and infancy.


We briefly summarize the most pervasive changes to family structure in the US during recent decades and discuss how early child health is linked to future outcomes for children and adults. We review research that highlights the mechanisms linking family structure to early child health and identify key risk and protective factors for children from the prenatal period through infancy.

We conclude with a critical assessment of current policy efforts to strengthen families and make recommendations for how best to address this issue for America’s families going forward.


Relationship Smarts PLUS Wins Association of American Publishers Award

Berkeley, CA–June 30, 2014—The Dibble Institute is pleased to announce that
Relationship Smarts PLUS has won the prestigious 2014 Revere Award for Distinguished Achievement in the supplementary life skills and character education category from the Association of American Publishers (AAP). This is the fourth Distinguished Achievement Award to a Dibble program since 2009.

Judges comments included, “Wow! This curriculum beautifully, honestly and realistically explains the relationship process in easy to understand and remember terms. It not only engages (teens) in building their critical thinking skills and goal setting, but it also hits all the important points of current teen life.”

Hot Off the Press!!

Hip Hop Dating Guide Activity Book!

The “street-smart” approach to healthy dating for young adults.

The Hip Hop Dating Guide Activity Book contains 15 fresh and engaging activities that resonate with today’s youth. It teaches practical dating strategies to young adults, especially those who identify with the “street scene” – a sub-culture whose influence is powerful, but whose rules are fluid and unproven.

Yo Jeff Carroll

15 thirty-minute to one-hour activities



“I Know How You Feel” Empathy Lesson

Smart Relationships is proud to partner with
Arketype Inc, an award winning advertising and design agency, and the
Green Bay Area Public School District to bring you this lesson on Empathy, a key social/emotional intelligence competency!

Available in two formats, K-2 and 3-5, this lesson plan titled “I Know How You Feel” introduces elementary students to the four steps of Empathy: I See, I Know, I Care, I Act.

Building Blocks Competency Model

The Department of Labor has identified the skills needed to succeed in the workforce with a building blocks model starting with foundational personal effectiveness skills to topping off with occupation specific requirements.

A key competency for personal effectiveness are interpersonal skills such as:

  • Demonstrating concern for others
  • Demonstrating insight into behavior
  • Respecting diversity
  • Working with diverse people

Download the competency model to use the next time you need to explain how relationship skills are foundational to work success.

Second Wednesday Webinar – July 9

Beyond the Feds – Proven Fundraising Strategies

for Healthy Relationship Programs

Learn proven strategies of raising private money for relationship skills classes with youth. Our panel will discuss a wide variety of methods they have used to fund classes that help teens get smart about their love lives.


Carol Jackson, Program Director of Families Matter in Memphis, TN. Erin Stone, Executive Director of Relationship Skills Center in Sacramento, CA. Kathy Schleier, Executive Director of Family Frameworks in Dalton, GA.

Who Should Attend:

Healthy Marriage and Responsible Fatherhood programs, Community Action Agencies, Extension agents, community based organizations, faith based organizations.



Wednesday, July 9, 2014, 4:00 pm Eastern/ 1:00 pm Pacific


60 minutes



Healthy Habits: Timing for Developing Sustainable Healthy Behaviors in Children and Adolescents

How can we encourage young people to adopt–and keep–healthy behaviors? The National Institute of Nursing Research and several other organizations within the National Institutes of Health will fund research projects that aim to (1) identify the ways young people are influenced to have healthy habits, and/or (2) promote positive sustainable health behaviors in children from birth to age 18. The types of behaviors may include:

  • healthy sleep patterns

  • self-regulation strategies

  • adaptive decision-making in risk situations

  •  dental hygiene

  • diet

  • physical activity

  • healthy relationships

This funding opportunity is
open through September 8, 2014 .

See the full funding opportunity announcement for more information and application deadlines.

Weyerhaeuser Giving Fund

The Weyerhaeuser Giving Fund is dedicated to enriching the quality of life in company communities, and fostering the understanding of the importance of sustainable working forests. Grants are provided to nonprofit organizations that serve communities within a 50-mile radius of major Weyerhaeuser facilities in the U.S. and Canada. Grants are also provided to organizations that support a statewide issue of interest to Weyerhaeuser in the key states of Alabama, Arkansas, Louisiana, Mississippi, North Carolina, Oklahoma, Oregon, or Washington.

The Fund’s interest areas include Affordable Housing and Shelter; Education and Youth Development; Environmental Stewardship; and Human Services, Civic, and Cultural Growth.
Applications must be submitted by August 1, 2014
. (Early applications are encouraged.) Visit the Weyerhaeuser website to review the funding guidelines and submit an online application.

Money and TA for Evaluating Fatherhood Programs

Funding and technical assistance (TA) will soon be available from the federal government to help your organization rigorously evaluate your fatherhood program. While competition to secure funding from this source is likely to be fierce, technical assistance should be readily available to help your organization evaluate your program with existing funds and better position your program for funding from public and private sources.

Community Programs in the West and Midwest Funded

Union Pacific Foundation: Community-Based Grant Program

The Union Pacific Foundation’s mission is to improve the quality of life in the
communities served by Union Pacific Railroad, primarily in the midwestern and western United States. Through the Community-Based Grant Program, the Foundation gives priority to requests that address the following categories: Community and Civic, and Health and
Human Services
. The majority of these grants are intended to help nonprofit organizations build their capacity, increase their impact, and operate more effectively. Nonprofit organizations in the railroad’s service area are invited to submit a preliminary application form online
by 4 pm CDT on August 14, 2014

Grants Address Poverty in the Southeast

Mary Reynolds Babcock Foundation

The Mary Reynolds Babcock Foundation assists people in the southeast United States to build just and caring communities that nurture people, spur enterprise, bridge differences, and foster fairness. The Foundation is dedicated to helping people and places to move out of poverty and achieve greater social and economic justice. Grants are provided to local, statewide, and regional nonprofits in Alabama, Arkansas, Georgia, Kentucky, Louisiana, Mississippi, North Carolina, South Carolina, Tennessee, Virginia, and West Virginia that work with people in low-wealth communities to shape their own destiny.

Grants Promote Quality of Life Programs in the Western U.S. and British Columbia

May and Stanley Smith Charitable Trust

The Trust provides grants to organizations that offer programs for
foster children and youth
, military veterans and their families, elders, and people with disabilities. The focus is on programs that will enrich the quality of life for the target populations,
promote self-sufficiency
, and assist individuals in achieving their highest potential. Online letters of inquiry are accepted throughout the year.

Support for Arizona Quality of Life Programs

Cardinals Charities

Cardinals Charities, the grantmaking program of the Arizona Cardinals, supports programs designed to improve the quality of life and enhance opportunities for children, women, and minorities in the state of Arizona. Grant requests of up to $5,000 are preferred, with priority given to grants that support special programs.


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