Healthy Relationship News – March 2011

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Search InstituteTips from the Search Institute : What to Do When Kids Fall in Love 

  • Affirm the joy of falling in love, even if your love life hasn’t always been easy. Try to remember what it was like when you first fell in love.
  • Take kids’ feelings seriously. You may not think it’s a big deal for a sixth grader to fall in love, but it’s a huge deal to your sixth grader.
  • Model and talk about appropriate ways to express love and care. Our society tends to be sex obsessed. Instead, focus on the relationship aspect of dating and getting to know someone.
  • Don’t make assumptions about your child’s sexual orientation. Create safe ways to talk about attraction without attaching a bias to sexual orientation, which your kids will pick up right away.  

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Connect With KidsFrom Connect with Kids – New Study:
Emotional Learning Works

 

Researchers from Loyola University and the University of Illinois studied more than 200 social and emotional programs in schools nationwide. Their conclusion? When kids are taught how to behave, academic performance also improves. Experts advise that schools should focus on well-designed programs that teach internal motivation and how to treat one another.

“Schools have had the unfortunate role in society of taking up all sorts of jobs that they weren’t originally designed to do. Society breaks down and they end up doing more and more and a much larger role in socialization. I would think that if they’re going to take that role, probably a better focus would be on character and on getting along with people and treating people with respect, self-control, self-discipline,” says Keith Campbell, Ph.D., of the University of Georgia.

Click here to watch this news story online.  

 

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 Nobody Gets Married Any More, Mister

“In my short time as a teacher in Connecticut, I have muddled through President Bush’s No Child Left Behind act, which tied federal funding of schools to various reforms, and through President Obama’s Race to the Top initiative, which does much the same thing, though with different benchmarks. Thanks to the feds, urban schools like mine-already entitled to substantial federal largesse under Title I, which provides funds to public schools with large low-income populations-are swimming in money.

 

Here’s my prediction: the money, the reforms, the gleaming porcelain, the hopeful rhetoric about saving our children-all of it will have a limited impact, at best, on most city schoolchildren. Urban teachers face an intractable problem, one that we cannot spend or even teach our way out of: teen pregnancy. This year, all of my favorite girls are pregnant, four in all, future unwed mothers every one. There will be no innovation in this quarter, no race to the top. Personal moral accountability is the electrified rail that no politician wants to touch.

More…  

 

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Center for Desease Control

Talk to Teens about Healthy Relationships

 

Unfortunately, when healthy relationship skills aren’t formed, some young people find themselves in abusive relationships that are marked by frustration, anger, low self-esteem, and even physical injury. Kids who report being physically hurt by a boyfriend or girlfriend in the past year are more likely to report unhealthy behaviors like binge drinking, suicide attempts, and physical fighting.

 

 

 

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National Institute of HealthOf Sex and Romance:
Late Adolescent Relationships and Young Adult Union Formation

To better understand the social factors that influence the diverse pathways to family formation young adults experience today, this research investigates the association between opposite-gender relationships during late adolescence and union formation in early adulthood. Using data from the first and third waves of the Add Health (n = 4,911), we show that, for both men and women, there is continuity between adolescent and adult relationship experiences.

 

Those involved in adolescent romantic relationships at the end of high school are more likely to marry and to cohabit in early adulthood. Moreover, involvement in a nonromantic sexual relationship is positively associated with cohabitation, but not marriage. We conclude that the precursors to union formation patterns in adulthood are observable in adolescence.  

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Funding Streams  

Dating Matters: Strategies to Promote Healthy Teen Relationships 

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention are accepting applications for the program Dating Matters: Strategies to Promote Healthy Teen Relationships. The purpose of the program is to build local public health capacity to establish a comprehensive community-wide Teen Dating Violence Prevention Initiative that focuses on 11-14 year olds to promote respectful, nonviolent dating relationships among youth in high-risk urban communities. For more information, click here. Letter of Intent Deadline: March 21, 2011

Based on our online customer survey, people are purchasing Dibble materials using the following funding sources:

  • California Challenge Grants
  • Department of Justice – Office of Violence Against Women – Tribal Programs

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Save the date –

The Dibble Institute Calendar

March 21, 2011
Los Angeles USD –  HIV/AIDS Health Teacher Conference
Los Angeles, CA
Healthy Choices, Healthy Relationships Workshop
Presenter: Nancy Lenk

April 8-9, 2011
Midwest Regional Family and Consumer Science Conference 
Cedar Falls, IA
Presenter: Joyce Huff

April 11-13, 2011
Georgia Office for Children and Families Conference 
Peachtree City, GA
Presenter: Marline Pearson

April 12, 2011
A Time of Opportuntiy: Conference for reproductive health workers who work with teens 
Oakland, CA
Exhibitor: Kay Reed

April 13-14, 2011

Indiana FACS Statewide Conference 

Indianapolis, IN

Round Table: New Curricula Showcase

Presenter: Irene Varley

 

April 26-29, 2011

Forging the Partnership  

2011 DoD/USDA Family Resilience Conference
Chicago, IL

Workshop: Relationship Smarts PLUS

Presenter: Ted Futris, Ph.D. and Georgia Extension Agents

 

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