Healthy Relationship News – May 2012


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   The Downside of Cohabiting Before Marriage  

 AT 32, one of my clients (I’ll call her Jennifer) had a lavish wine-country wedding. By then, Jennifer and her boyfriend had lived together for more than four years. The event was attended by the couple’s friends, families and two dogs.


When Jennifer started therapy with me less than a year later, she was looking for a divorce lawyer. “I spent more time planning my wedding than I spent happily married,” she sobbed. Most disheartening to Jennifer was that she’d tried to do everything right. “My parents got married young so, of course, they got divorced. We lived together! How did this happen?”


(Editor’s Note: This NYT article is based on the CDC’s just released report – First Marriages in the United States: 2006 – 2010. Click for articles from the Christian Science Monitor, Philadelphia Enquirer, and USA Today. To teach these concepts check out Dibble’s What’s Reel? and Why Buy the Cow.




    Shots: NPR Health Blog  

To Predict Dating Success, The Secret’s In The Pronouns

by Alix Spiegel

Fun science report to read or listen to! You will learn why it pays to watch the little words!
Read more here.



  Center on the Developing Child: Harvard University  

Toxic Stress: The Facts


The future of any society depends on its ability to foster the healthy development of the next generation. Extensive research on the biology of stress now shows that healthy development can be derailed by excessive or prolonged activation of stress response systems in the body (especially the brain), with damaging effects on learning, behavior, and health across the lifespan.  

Learning how to cope with adversity is an important part of healthy child development. When we are threatened, our bodies prepare us to respond by increasing our heart rate, blood pressure, and stress hormones, such as cortisol. When a young child’s stress response systems are activated within an environment of supportive relationships with adults, these physiological effects are buffered and brought back down to baseline. The result is the development of healthy stress response systems. However, if the stress response is extreme and long-lasting, and buffering relationships are unavailable to the child, the result can be damaged, weakened systems and brain architecture, with lifelong repercussions. Read more.  


(Editor’s Note: We know from the work of the Adverse Childhood Experiences Study, that parent’s love turbulent lives cause stress in their children. Relationship Smarts PLUS and Love Notes help young people see their own love lives through the eyes of their children.)


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News You Can Use

Healthy Children    

 Tools for Parents


Signs of a Healthy Relationship

  • Respecting each other
  • Knowing that you make each other better people
  • Sharing common interests, but having outside friends and activities too
  • Settling disagreements peacefully and with respect


Relationships are supposed to make both people feel happy. People should feel good about what happens when they are together. Read More 



Teen Love Connection


Teen Love Connection It makes all parents nervous, to put it mildly, but adolescent dating and love is undeniable and universal. Learn how to help your teen (and yourself) through this time of transition.


Remember what it felt like when you were a teen and in love for the first time? Did you get butterflies in your stomach every time that special someone came around? Find yourself doodling his or her name on your notebook? Did you feel it was the best feeling in the world and never wanted it to end? Read More. 




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Dibble Updates



Register NOW for a full day PREPARE-ENRICH-INSPIRE (PEI) training on Sunday, July 22, Baltimore, MD!


Get trained in Dibble’s newest program! You will learn PEI’s philosophy, content, and ways to apply the program to meet the needs of your young people! You will be engaged in all the aspects of the curriculum, awakening your creative talent for working with teens. Visit the National Relationship and Marriage Education  (NARME) web-site to register.



More info on logistics and costs for NARME.

Make your travel plans soon! This National Association of Relationship & Marriage Education (NARME) Conference will take place at the Baltimore Hilton, Maryland. Room-rates start at $139/night if booked before 5/31/12.


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  Things to Know Before You Say   

Things  to Know Before You Say “Go” Named Finalist!


Things to Know Before You Say “Go” has been selected as a finalist in the 2012 AEP Awards’ Supplemental Resources category of Life Skills and Character Education.


TAEP Finalisthe award letter reads: “Congratulations again for being named a finalist in AEP’s Awards program – this alone is a great honor that signifies your dedication to creating the highest quality materials to students and teachers around the world.”


Other finalists in the Life Skills and Character Education category are Girl Scouts of the USA and Youth Communications. Read more.


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Money HabitudesMoney Habitudes: How To Be Rich in Life & Love™ Wins Excellence in Financial Literacy Education Award 


The Dibble Institute and LifeWise Strategies announce that their collaboration, Money Habitudes: How To Be Rich in Life & Love™, has won this year’s Excellence in Financial Literacy Education (EIFLE) Award for Children’s Education Program of the Year in the Financial Responsibility and Decision Making category.  


Money Habitudes

The EIFLE financial education award is bestowed by the Institute for Financial Literacy. It acknowledges innovation, dedication, and the commitment of those that support financial literacy education. Money Habitudes: How To Be Rich in Life & Love: A curriculum about money and relationships, introduces teens to the human, emotional side of money. With a behavioral economics approach, the teen financial literacy curriculum is an important precursor to financial literacy courses. Read more.  




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Dibble Catalog 2012 New Dibble Catalog


We’ve redesigned our 2012 catalog with all our new Dibble materials plus lots of useful information on other Dibble services you can use. Download your own copy now!  



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Connections: Relationships and Marriage

Spring Cleaning Sale

Check out our specials on overstocked relationships skills activities, lesson plans, books, and more. Your budget will benefit! While supplies last.


Included is the popular, prior edition of Connections: Relationships and Marriage at an amazing 50% off!


Is this program still relevant? Absolutely! While the new edition covers more topics with updated research, this older edition (at a great price) has a trove of relevant research behind it and offers more mature teens a chance to deeply explore the skills required for healthy, stable relationships with family, friends, dating partners, and eventually marriage partners.  It contains 18 lessons and a Spanish supplement is also available.  All specials have a limited quantity.



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Funding Streams for Relationship Education    



Office of Head Start 


Head Start Grants


On April 19th, the Department of Health and Human Services announced that they are releasing funding opportunities for 97 Head Start service areas across the country. 


The Request for Proposal asks applicants to implement the new Parent, Family, and Community Engagement Framework. The RFP emphasizes meaningful family engagement and education in order to support the parent-child relationship, improve parental mental health, and develop better parenting practices. Teaching young parents how to establish healthy, stable romantic relationships and families will help to accomplish all three.


We believe that implementing research based Love Notes in your Head Start or Early Head Start proposal will uniquely address the grant’s Parent, Family, and Community Engagement goals and will strengthen your proposal.


The Dibble Institute will be pleased to collaborate with applicants to help you develop your grant logic model, select appropriate materials, design and implement instructor training and offer ongoing technical support in order to successfully implement Love Notes with your young parents.


Read more from Head Start here.


Click here to learn more from Dibble. 


Please contact at   with your questions.


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The Family and Youth Services Bureau (FYSB) will soon be accepting applications for the Transitional Living Program (TLP) and for Maternity Group Homes (MGH). TLPs provide an alternative to involving RHY in the law enforcement, child welfare, mental health, and juvenile justice systems. Each TLP must provide a safe and appropriate shelter for up to 21 months of services with adult supervision, life and interpersonal skill building, career counseling and job skills, counseling, and medical care as appropriate. MGHs provide the same services as a TLP in addition to providing parenting instructions and childcare. Other services that are offered include, but are not limited to, transportation, family planning, abstinence education and pregnancy prevention services.  


Available: April 2012
Deadline: June 2012



Get more info and apply here  


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Where is Dibble now?

A peek at the Dibble calendar.


May 16-17, 2012

Adolescent Pregnancy Prevention Campaign of North Carolina

Greensboro, NC

Workshop: It’s So Much More Than SEX!

Presenter: Dixie Zittlow


June 26-29, 2012      

2012 National Pathways To Adulthood         

New Orleans, LA

Workshop: Can’t Buy Me Love!

Presenter: Dixie Zittlow


June 28-30, 2012

 Community Youth Development Teen Summit
Georgetown, TX

Workshop: The Missing Link: Relationship Education

Presenter: Janet Pozmantier


July 15-18, 2012        

Kentucky Annual Career and Technical Education Summer Program 

Louisville, KY

Workshop: What Is your Money Habitude?

Presenter: Irene Varley


July 22, 2012

National Association for Marriage and Relationship Education

Baltimore, MD

One Day Pre-conference Training: Prepare-Enrich-Inspire Curriculum

Trainer: Jessica Pool, M.S., author


July 20-24, 2012

National Association for Marriage and Relationship Education

Baltimore, MD

Workshop: Prepare-Enrich-Inspire for Teens

Presenter: Jessica Pool

Workshop: The Future’s Families are Today’s Teens

Presenter: Dixie Zittlow

Workshop: Forming Realistic Expectations: Do I Want My Parents’ Relationship?

Presenter: Irene Varley

Workshop: Things to Know Before You Say “Go”!

Presenter: Irene Varley


July 23-25, 2012

 Missouri ACTE/FCE Conference 

Springfield, MO

Workshop: Prepare students for “The Relationship”not just “The Wedding” – using a Data Driven approach

Presenter: Nancy Lenk


July 30 – August 2, 2012      

Virginia Teachers of Family and Consumer Sciences Annual Conference 

Charlottesville, VA

Workshop: Curricula overview

Presenter: Joyce Huff


July 30 – August 3, 2012

Texas Family and Consumer Sciences Professional Development 

Dallas, Texas

Workshop: Prepare-Enrich-Inspire Teens into Their Futures

Presenter: Jessica Pool and Janet Pozmantier


August 1-3, 2012      

Virginia Marketing Educators Conference 

Virginia Beach, VA     

Workshop: What is Your Money Habitude?

Presenter: Joyce Huff


August 7, 2012         

Wisconsin Family and Consumer Sciences Educators’ Conference 

Madison, WI

Workshop: What Is Your Money Habitude?

Presenter: Dixie Zittlow


August 7-9, 2012

Ohio Association of Teachers of Family And Consumer Sciences Conference 

Columbus, OH

Workshops: What is Your Money Habitude?

                   Things to Know Before You Say “Go”

Presenter: Irene Varley


September 24-28, 2012

National Extension Association Family and Consumer Science Conference 

Columbus, OH

Workshop: The Money Habitudes Card Game for Teens

Presenter: Irene Varley



Would you like a Dibble presentation at your conference? Email Irene Varley, Director of Education, at to find out how.


Please let us know if you are having an open to the public event featuring Dibble curricula. We would be happy to help you publicize it.


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