Healthy Relationship News – May 2014

Healthy Relationship News – May 2014

  • Limits of Marriage as a Path Out of Poverty
  • Advice for a Happy Life
  • New Sex Education Focuses on Preventing Violence
  • If I Could Do It All Over Again
  • Girls’ Mental Health Suffers
  • Relationships Too Important to Leave to Chance.


  • Relationship Smarts PLUS in Finals!


  • What is This Thing Called Love?
  • Pregnancy Prevention Month
  • Tip Sheets for Parents
  • Underage Teens Using Hook-Up App




The Limits of Marriage as a Path Out of Poverty

Every time I see an article advocating marriage as a solution to poverty, I have a decidedly mixed reaction.

There are compelling aspects to the argument. Obviously, two earners will prevent poverty-level incomes more readily than one; poverty rates for married families with kids are far below those of single-parent families. And there’s considerable research showing that much else being equal, child outcomes are better when kids grow up with two parents rather than one.

Advice for a Happy Life
by Charles Murray

Consider marrying young. Be wary of grand passions. Watch ‘Groundhog Day’ (again). Advice on how to live to the fullest.

The transition from college to adult life is treacherous, and this is nowhere more visible than among new college graduates in their first real jobs. A few years ago, I took it upon myself to start writing tips for the young staff where I work about how to avoid doing things that would make their supervisors write them off. It began as a lark as I wrote tips with titles such as, “Excise the word ‘like’ from your spoken English.”

But eventually, I found myself getting into the deeper waters of how to go about living a good life. At that point, I had to deal with a reality: When it comes to a life filled with deep and lasting satisfactions, most of the clichés are true. How could I make them sound fresh to a new generation? Here’s how I tried.

The New Sex Education Focuses on Preventing Violence

The trend in instilling the importance of healthy relationships and mutual respect, not just how to use condoms.

The reliably controversial question of adolescent sex education has long revolved around birth control and abstinence education. But for parents of children raised on smartphones and social media, the new sex-ed conundrum has more to do with issues like sexting, bullying, and porn.

If I Could Do It All Over Again

It seemed like a good idea at the time. When it comes to sexual misadventures, why do we feel so wrong about that which, in the heat of the moment, felt so right?

There are many reasons for second-guessing sex: It ruined a relationship; it wasn’t very exciting; it made you feel dirty or unvirtuous. Roughly half of women and a quarter of men who have had casual sex feel regretful about the last time they did it. Then, of course, there are quite a few who pass up a go at sex and later kick themselves for it.

Girls’ mental health suffers when romances unfold differently than they imagined

A new study reveals that for adolescent girls, having a romantic relationship play out differently than they imagined it would has negative implications for their mental health. “I found that girls’ risk of severe depression, thoughts of suicide, and suicide attempt increase the more their relationships diverge from what they imagined,” said the study’s author.

Relationships are too important to leave to chance.

Search Institute’s newest research-to-practice initiative focuses on studying and strengthening the developmental relationships that help young people succeed. A developmental relationship is a close connection between a young person and an adult or between a young person and a peer that positively shapes the young person’s identity and sense of a thriving mindset. Download the research on Developmental Relationships.


Relationship Smarts PLUS in Finals!

We are thrilled to report that our newly revised curriculum, Relationship Smarts PLUS 3.0 has made it to the finals for the 2014 Distinguished Achievement Awards (DAA) for life skills and character education supplemental resources through the Association of American Publishers (AAP).

The DAAs recognize exceptional resources used by teachers, parents, and learners of all ages. Categories include Whole Curriculum Programs, Supplemental Resources, Periodicals, and Professional Development.

The AAP Awards recognize the year’s most outstanding materials in the field of teaching and learning.


What is This Thing Called Love?

Romantic love was invented by troubadours during the Middle Ages. You might have heard that before. Until recently, that view was widely held by anthropologists, sociologists, and historians: Love is a western cultural construct. Now, most researchers believe love is a cultural universal. Literature, music, and artifacts from everywhere and every time show humans falling in love. But why do we fall in love? Why does love cause us transcendent joy? Why is it devastating when our relationships fall apart?

May is Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month.

The theme for the Family and Youth Services Bureau’s Adolescent Pregnancy Prevention Program observance is “PREP Teens for the Future.” Our theme emphasizes the importance of taking a holistic approach to educating at-risk youth on pregnancy prevention, with the goal of positively enhancing youth development. For the Adult Preparation Topics tip sheet, click here.

Tip Sheets for Parents

CDC’s DASH has developed two new fact sheets for parents, featured on its Positive Parenting Practices web page. “Ways to Influence Your Teen’s Sexual Risk Behavior: What Fathers Can Do” offers resources and tips for dads on helping their children avoid risky sexual behaviors. “Parents’ Influence on the Health of Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Teens: What Parents and Families Should Know” provides information for parents on how they can support and promote healthy outcomes for their LGTBQ teens. Learn more.

Underage Teens Are Using Hookup App Tinder

Should Parents Be Worried?

A concerned blogger raised the alarm about a troubling statistic: It seems a surprising number of users on the popular dating app Tinder are under the age of 18.

“While there are plenty of twenty-, thirty- and forty-somethings on the app, there has been a reported rise of teenagers using the app,” wrote Samantha Escobar for lifestyle blog “In fact, 7 percent of users are between 13 and 17, and that’s … uncomfortable, to say the least.”

Second Wednesday Webinar – May 14

Money Habitudes 2® For At-Risk Youth
What money means, and why it matters

Do your students show little interest in learning money management skills? Can they understand the skills but do not connect them to the relevancy of them in their lives, therefore show little progress in their personal saving, spending, budgeting behavior?

Learn about the newest Dibble program, Money Habitudes 2®, a quick way to introduce vulnerable youth to the non-technical, human side of money – a critical element of successful money management.

Join us to learn the hidden attitudes that affect the ways people -especially those with few financial resources – actually behave around money.

Presenter: David Durand, Leadership Development Manager,
CCEO YouthBuild, Lennox, California

Participants: Those who teach life skills or financial literacy to vulnerable teens and young adults in community programs, schools, workforce development, pregnancy prevention programs, teen parenting programs, and independent living.


When: Wednesday, May 14, 2014
, 4:00 pm Eastern/
1:00 pm PacificDuration: 60 minutes 

Cost: Free!
June 11 – Dibble Wednesday Webinar PreviewKathy Edin, Ph.D., Johns Hopkins University

Professor Edin will discuss her most recent work, “Doing the Best I Can: Fatherhood in the Inner City,” just published in May 2013, through which in-depth interviews allow unmarried low-income fathers to tell their side of the story.

Grants Promote Quality of Life Programs in the Western U.S. and British Columbia

May and Stanley Smith Charitable Trust

The Trust provides grants to organizations that offer programs for foster children and youth, military veterans and their families, elders, and people with disabilities. The focus is on programs that will enrich the quality of life for the target populations, promote self-sufficiency, and assist individuals in achieving their highest potential. Online letters of inquiry are accepted throughout the year.

Basic Center Program

The Basic Center Program funds community-based programs that address the immediate needs of runaway and homeless youth and their families. Basic center projects aim to increase young people’s safety, well-being, and self-sufficiency, and to help them build permanent connections with caring adults, with the goal of reuniting them with their families (as appropriate). Deadline for Applications: May 12, 2014.

(Ed. Note: We are starting to see Basic Centers use relationship skills education as an intervention to increase well-being and self sufficiency of these vulnerable youth.)

Grants Promote Youth Education in Oregon and Washington
Safeco Insurance Fund

The Safeco Insurance Fund provides grants to nonprofit organizations that serve communities in Oregon and Washington. The Fund’s focus is on educational programs that encourage disadvantaged youth to excel academically and create opportunities for life-long success through learning. Grants are also provided to health and human services organizations that enhance the quality of life and safety in company communities. Applying organizations must have annual operating budgets exceeding $250,000. Requests may be submitted throughout the year; however, applications submitted after September 30 may not be reviewed until the following calendar year.

Support for Child Health and Education Initiatives in California and Washington
Stuart Foundation

The Stuart Foundation is dedicated to transforming the public education and child welfare systems in California and Washington so that all youth can learn and achieve in school and life. The Vulnerable Youth in Child Welfare category partners with child welfare agencies to help children and youth in foster care to realize positive outcomes in the following focus areas: safety, permanency, well being, education opportunities, and youth, family and community engagement. Letters of inquiry may be submitted at any time.

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