Healthy Relationship News – May 2015





Introduction to a
Trauma Informed Approach
in Relationship Education


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National Responsible Fatherhood
OFA Highlights The Dibble Institute

Highlights from the Field: Office of Family Assistance Programs at Work for American Families

This highlight from the field is a video interview with staff and participants from The Dibble Institute, a Healthy Marriage grantee of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Office of Family Assistance. Some teens in California are building a foundation for healthy romantic relationships now, and gaining skills for lasting, positive family environments in the future.

See The Dibble Institute video here.


HCHR 2015Healthy Choices, Healthy Relationships

Finalist for Revere Award from the Association of American Publishers.

We have just learned that Healthy Choices, Healthy Relationships has been recognized as a finalist in the 2015 REVERE Awards, an annual recognition by the Association of American Publishers! This year’s competition featured the deepest, most diverse batch of entries they have had in the competition. The AAP noted, “We’re happy to recognize your program, which highlights the importance of high quality resources for teaching and learning!”

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The Terrible Loneliness of Growing Up PoorThe Terrible Loneliness of Growing Up Poor

Robert Putnam wants a show of hands of everyone in the room with a parent who graduated from college. In a packed Swarthmore College auditorium where the students have spilled onto the floor next to their backpacks, about 200 arms rise.

The Harvard political scientist, famous for his book “Bowling Alone” that warned of the decline of American community, has returned to his alma mater to talk, this time, about inequality. Not between the 99 percent and the 1 percent, but between two groups that have also fallen further apart: children born to educated parents who are more likely to read to them as babies, to drive them to dance class, to nudge them into college themselves — and children whose parents live at the edge of economic survival.

(Ed. Note: This is a great illustration of how love lives are not neutral. How you set up your love life will impact both your life and the lives of your children.)


Huff Post ParentsProm 2.0: If I Knew Then…

If your child is in high school, s/he may be caught up in prom fever, which is likely to re-stimulate some of your memories. In any era, prom is a time of drama. The romantic dreams. The anticipation. The awkwardness. The fear of rejection. The actual rejection. The logistics. The clothes. The cost. The pressure to look cool, be cool and make prom a night to remember.

I’ve been thinking about my high school prom and what went wrong. If I knew then what I know now, what would I do differently?


Psychology TodayShould You Think Twice Before Moving In With a Partner?

Do buying a car and choosing a spouse have something in common? In recent decades, it seems that they do. A simple test drive allows buyers to decide if they like how a vehicle handles, what it feels like to sit in the seat, if they can see over the steering wheel, and if the ride is smooth enough.

Living with a romantic partner prior to marriage is thought by many to offer the same benefits: Does your partner handle life well? Can you still see a future with him or her? Do you communicate well in the same house?

These seem like logical questions that should be answered by living with a potential spouse prior to marriage—and yet, couples who live together before marriage are actually more prone to marital troubles and divorce than those who don’t. Recent research has sought to determine why.


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Everyone Has a Role in Preventing Sexual Assault

  • Nearly 1 in 5 women (19%) and 1 in 59 men (nearly 2%) in the U.S. have been raped in their lives. 1 in 15 men have been made to penetrate someone in their lives.
  • Most first-time sexual assaults occur before age 18, making early intervention and prevention efforts critical—for women and men.
  • Sexual Violence Surveillance: Uniform Definitions and Recommended Data Elements can help standardize sexual violence definitions and data to guide prevention.

(Ed. Note: Increasingly, Dibble programs are being implemented as an innovative approach to preventing sexual assault. If you would like to learn how, email Irene Varley, Dibble’s Director of Education.).

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NARME Leadership Summit 2015

National Association of Relationship and Marriage Educators

June 15-17, 2015 in Atlanta, GA

Equipping those leading the way for healthy relationship development, family formation, and poverty prevention with the knowledge and strategies to be most effective in the workplace and community.

The NARME National Leadership Summit’s goals are to:

  • Provide you with opportunities for new insights and fresh perspectives,
  • Share new and proven best practices, and
  • Bring groundbreaking research to the forefront

to help us all refresh, renew, revitalize, refocus and re-envision our efforts to help people build strong families.



The Current Health and Life-Skills Magazine for Teens

Choices is a magazine dedicated to the health and well-being of middle and high school students. Published by Scholastic, each issue is packed with page-turning stories about crucial issues that matter to teens— from bullying, drinking, and technology, to relationships, nutrition, fitness, and goal-setting.


Yale Center for Emotional IntelligenceEmotional Revolution

Born This Way Foundation. Our mission is to empower students to drive the national conversation that charges schools with increasing their focus on social and emotional learning (SEL) to build positive school climates.

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May 13

Second Wednesday Webinars

Introduction to a Trauma Informed Approach

in Relationship Education

Childhood trauma impacts growth and success in all areas of a young person’s life, including their capacity to form and maintain healthy relationships.</>

Learn what trauma informed care is and its importance in the development of healthy relationships in a pre-recorded presentation from Carolyn Rich Curtis, Ph.D. Discover how modest programmatic changes can enhance your organization’s effectiveness with young people who have experienced adversity in their childhoods.

Carolyn Rich Curtis, PhD, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Founder of the Relationship Skills Center in Sacramento, CA (Due to scheduling conflicts some of this webinar is pre-recorded.)

Who Should Attend: Relationship educators, relationship, marriage, and fatherhood grant managers, runaway and homeless youth workers, pregnancy prevention staff, Extension agents, Community Action Agency staff, Head Start caseworkers, Juvenile Justice caseworkers and all who work with at-risk youth.

When: Wednesday, May 13, 2015, 4:00 pm Eastern/1:00 pm Pacific.

Duration: 60 minutes

Cost: Free!

Register Now!

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Youth Build

  • At least 30% of the YB funds are for organizations that have never received a YB grant.
  • Target population is 16-24 year olds.
  • Grants award range is $700,000-$1.1 million.
  • 25% match required, but it can be in-kind.
  • 40% of the time is to be spent on job training, which may include healthy relationship skills training.
  • Proposals are due June 5.

For more information on the YouthBuild grant go to then enter FOA-ETA-15-05 in the funding opportunity search box.

(Ed. Note: Dibble’s Love Notes program is currently being successfully used by a number of Fatherhood programs as well as YouthBuild grantees to teach young adults the communication skills and problem solving skills needed for success both at work and at home. Read a YouthBuild report on Love Notes here or download a sample lesson here. Click here to request a 30-day digital review copy of Love Notes.)


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Competitive Abstinence Education Grants

The purpose of the CAE program is to provide funding for additional tools to address the rates of teen pregnancy among adolescent youth who are at greatest risk of sexually transmitted infections and most likely to bear children out of wedlock. Program plans will focus on the social, psychological, and health gains to be realized by delaying initiation of sexual activity and engaging in healthy relationships. Grantees under this program will be expected to develop a targeted and medically accurate approach to reducing teen pregnancies through abstinence education.

(Ed. Note: As you think about how your organization can best respond, consider using a Dibble relationship skills program to strengthen your intervention. Our programs will help you meet the healthy relationship skills and Positive Youth Development requirements of the grant, in addition to being an innovative approach to delaying sexual activity with the at-risk groups this grant is asking you to serve.)

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Four TeensDibble goes Digital
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