Healthy Relationship News – September 2013





Essential Lessons Learned in Dating:
Teaching the Stages of Relationships




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Dear Friends –  


The Robert Wood Johnson Foundation is looking for innovative approaches to solving major problems in health and health care. They are not looking for incremental improvements. They are not looking for apps. They are looking for innovations that reflect a vision of how the world could be if only we could develop a new approach or ask a different set of questions.  


The Dibble Institute’s innovative approach is to reduce childhood trauma & adult health problems by teaching healthy relationship skills to parents.  


If you like this idea, please click on the link to vote for it and comment. Please feel free to forward to your networks. Let’s get some action going!  


With warmest wishes,  

Kay Reed  



Kay Reed  

Executive Director  


PS The opportunity for commenting closes on September 6th.


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Scientific American

Students Today “Hook Up” No More Than Their Parents Did in College


College students are no more sexually active these days than they were in the 1980s. That’s the finding of a recent study by University of Portland sociologist Martin Monto, who says that the media’s portrayal of a new and pervasive “hookup culture” on college campuses is misleading.




Eustacia Cutler, mother of autism advocate Temple Grandin, writes on why autistic men are viewing child pornography-and being labeled sex offenders.  


A young male adult with autism took his computer in for repairs. The repair shop found child pornography on his hard drive and turned him in to the police. In court he was adjudicated a “predator”-a legal label he will wear for life. A label that will bar him from any job that involves children, and from any “assisted living” home for an adult such as himself.  


When child pornography hits the law, the law is not friendly, no matter the circumstances-nor the understandable dysfunction of the perpetrator. One psychologist described to me her court experience with an adult autistic male. The judge pointed at her and said: “You should be dealing with this before I have to deal with it.”  


(Editor’s Note: All the more reason to teach young people with Autism healthy relationship skills.)



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One in Three U.S. Youths Report Being Victims of Dating Violence 


About one in three American youths age 14-20 say they’ve been of victims of dating violence and almost one in three acknowledge they’ve committed violence toward a date, according to new research presented at the American Psychological Association’s 121st Annual Convention.  


“Adolescent dating violence is common among young people. It also overlaps between victimization and perpetration and appears across different forms of dating abuse,” according to Michele Ybarra, MPH, PhD. She is with the Center for Innovative Public Health Research, based in San Clemente, Calif.



Survey Says Title

Complementary Not Contradictory 


Almost seven in 10 adults in the U.S. believe teens should be provided more information about both delaying sex and contraception, according to new survey results released today by The National Campaign. That is, encouraging teens to delay sex and providing teens with information about contraception are seen as complementary, not contradictory strategies by most adults regardless of age, race/ethnicity, or geography.  


(Editor’s Note: Check out Love Notes and Relationship Smarts PLUS to see examples of this approach.)



Child Trends

Depression, Poverty, and Parenting 


There is a troubling trend that researchers have identified again and again – low-income parents, especially single mothers, have higher rates of depression and depressive symptoms than their higher-income counterparts. A new Child Trends’ study found that more than half of a group of low-income mothers in Maryland felt down, depressed, or hopeless in the past year and almost a third had those feelings combined with a lack of interest or pleasure in doing things.


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From the National Resource Center for Healthy Marriage and Family:  

  • Why marriage and relationship education matters to youth
    This tip sheet discusses how marriage and relationship education can assist youth as they initiate and manage their romantic relationships. It also provides helpful information for safety-net service providers on selecting appropriate programs and resources, as well as on engaging youth during the process.  
  • Healthy dating leads to healthy marriage
    This tip sheet presents many of the factors that youth and young adults, along with the safety-net service providers who work with them, need to be aware of in order to help build the healthy dating friendships that can lead to healthy long-term marital friendships.


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 Dibble Webinars 

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Teens often move too quickly in romance. Breaking romantic development down into 4 specific stages can help teens see the path that leads to healthy partnership choices and understand concerns regarding the choice to “Hook-Up”.  


Each step in this progression has its own important tasks. Moving too quickly through stages or skipping stages puts the individual at risk and at a disadvantage. Making these stages, and the accompanying tasks, clear can help young adults slow down, stay curious, identify obstacles, and avoid potential emotional, mental, and physical injury.  


Guest presenter: Elsbeth Martindale, Psy.D.

Dr. Martindale, a Portland, Oregon-based psychologist with over 25 years experience in clinical practice, is the creator of “Things to Know Before You Say ‘Go’: Powerful Questions to Ask Before You Give Your Heart Away” card deck and activity book carried by The Dibble Institute.

When: Wednesday September 11, 2013 at 4:00 PM Eastern time (1:00 PM Pacific)  

Duration: 60 minutes  

Who: Teachers, School Social Workers, Counselors, Psychologists and Administrators, Extension, Head Start Staff and Instructors, Head Start Program Directors, Youth Leaders, Pregnancy Prevention Specialists, Community Action, Juvenile Justice, and Health Care Professionals and anyone who works with teens and young adults

Cost: Free!


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Office of Adolescent Health

From The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Parenting: 



The Office of Adolescent Health has announced the award of 17 grants through its Pregnancy Assistance Fund grant program to states and tribes. We’d like to extend congratulations to the successful applicants; we understand it was an extremely competitive process with many great applications. We also encourage those working in these states or with these tribes to reach out to the grant recipient in your area to see how your work may complement each other.  


(Editor’s Note: One allowable activity in these grants is building healthy relationship skills.)


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Head Start and/or Early Head Start Grant Opportunity Announcements 


Through this announcement, the Administration for Children and Families solicits applications that seek to provide a high-quality, comprehensive birth-to-five program incorporating both Head Start and Early Head Start funding, or to provide for Head Start only or Early Head Start only, to children and families in various locations. Interested applicants may email the OHS Operations Center at for additional information.  


You can search for Head Start and Early Head Start funding announcements using CFDA Number 93.600.


Successful applicants will want to address the Head Start Parent and Family Engagement Outcomes. Two of them (shown below) may be successfully addressed through relationship skills education.  

  1. FAMILY WELL-BEING Parents and families are safe, healthy, and have increased financial security.  
  2. POSITIVE PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPS – Beginning with transitions to parenthood, parents and families develop warm relationships that nurture their child’s learning and development.

If you are currently a provider of relationship skills education, you may want to review all the grant announcements to see if your service area is included. If it is, you may want to contact likely applicants to partner on a successful application. For more information on Head Start, click here.



Joseph and Vera Long Foundation Grants Promote Innovative Projects in Northern California and Hawaii

The Joseph & Vera Long Foundation 


The Joseph & Vera Long Foundation’s primary purpose is to support nonprofit organizations in Northern California and the state of Hawaii. The Foundation’s grantmaking categories include healthcare, education, and conservation. The Foundation has a special interest in programs which benefit women, families, and seniors, or contribute to the conservation of the natural environment.  


Preference is given to new, innovative projects that will be completed with the Foundation’s contribution. Grants in the upcoming fall cycle will range from $10,000 to $49,000. Request for Invitation (RFI) forms may be submitted online from August 19 through September 16, 2013. After the Foundation staff reviews the RFI forms, selected organizations will be invited to apply for a grant.



Black United Fund of Oregon Grants Promote Education in Oregon’s Underserved Communities

Black United Fund of Oregon 


Founded in 1983, the mission of the Black United Fund of Oregon (BUFOR) is to assist in the social and economic development of Oregon’s low-income communities, and to contribute to a broader understanding of ethnic and culturally diverse groups. BUFOR awards grants of up to $5,000 to small, local nonprofit organizations with proven track records of success in increasing opportunities and improving the social determinants of health within traditionally underserved communities.  


Funding priorities focus on projects that support the education pipeline, specifically high school completion; higher education access and completion; youth engagement with science, technology, engineering, arts, math, and the medical field; closing achievement gaps; etc. Preference will be given to grant proposals serving African American and other ethnically diverse as well as low-income, at-risk, and underserved communities.  


The application deadline is September 14, 2013.



BBVA Compass Foundation
Funds for Programs in Bank Communities

BBVA Compass Foundation 


The BBVA Compass Foundation supports nonprofit organizations that are making a positive impact in the communities the bank serves in Alabama, Arizona, California, Colorado, Florida, New Mexico, New York, Puerto Rico, and Texas. The Foundation gives priority to requests that best reflect the following focus areas: community development/financial literacy, education, health and human services, arts and culture, environment and natural resources, and diversity and inclusion. Online applications are due September 30, 2013. (Organizations interested in applying should join one of the Charitable Contributions Process Conference Calls/Webinar Presentations held on July 26, August 16, and September 13 prior to submitting a grant request.)



Kansas Health Foundation
Health Improvement Programs for Kansans Funded

Kansas Health Foundation: Recognition Grants 


The mission of the Kansas Health Foundation is to improve the health of all Kansans. The Foundation’s Recognition Grants support a broad range of nonprofit organizations throughout the state that fit within the Foundation’s mission. In addition to supporting specific projects, the Foundation funds initiatives that focus on promoting policy, systems, and environmental transformations that affect all aspects of health, including social factors that contribute to a healthy population. Grants of up to $25,000 are provided. The upcoming application deadline is September 15, 2013.


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Where is Dibble now?  


Come see us!


September 19, 2013  

Missouri Association for Career Services  

Columbia, MO  

Workshop: Healthy Relationships through (Special) Autistic Eyes

Presenter: Nancy Lenk  


October 22-25, 2013  

Healthy Teen Network  

Savannah, GA  

Workshop: What are Your Money Habitudes?  

Presenter: Joyce Huff  


October 28-29, 2013  

Washington State FACS  

Vancouver, Washington  

Workshop: Overcoming Abuses and Excuses  

Presenter: Nancy Lenk  


November 3-6, 2013  

Pathways to Promise: 25th Annual National Dropout Prevention Network  

Atlanta, Georgia  

Workshops: What Are Your Money Habitudes? and Love Notes  

Presenter: Joyce Huff


November 5-6, 2013  

Native American Fatherhood and Families Conference  

Mesa, AZ  

Workshop: The Missing Link: Relationship Education  

Presenter: Joyce Pozmantier  


December 11-13, 2013 2013  

National Sex Education Conference  

Meadowlands, New Jersey  

Workshop: Boost Success – New Strategy to Integrate Pregnancy and STI Prevention with Healthy Relationships Education  

Presenter: Marline Pearson


Would you like a Dibble Outreach Educator at your conference? Email Irene Varley, Director of Education, at to find out how.


Please let us know if you are having an open to the public event featuring Dibble curricula. We would be happy to help you publicize it.


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