July 14, 2010

Healthy Relationship News

Dear Friends,Respectful, warm relationships and funding…the news this month is terrific!Sarah Brown, Executive Director of The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancies writes in TheNation Magazine that, “Sex ed has mainly been focused on reproduction, not relationships. But people in the field havebeen beginning to understand that—while there is a role for specific pregnancy prevention and harm reduction—it’s all part of a larger picture that also includes substance abuse and overall life planning. It’s not just about body parts or pathogens or the mechanics of contraception; it’s about what constitutes a respectful, warm relationship.” We applaud Ms. Brown’s endorsement of healthy relationship skills in the work of pregnancy prevention.And there is more…..a grant from the Office of Adolescent Health for services to support pregnant and parenting teens and young adults was announced last week. One allowable activity is: education to improve parenting skills, including teaching mothers and fathers about the developmental needs of infants and young children and how to relate to each other, and to strengthen marriages.The grant focuses on improving outcomes to young mothers by helping them stay in and finish school, access medical care for themselves and their children, and improve parenting skills (including becoming better parents by developing a healthy relationship). The funding seeks to support young moms and parents with a comprehensive services. Certainly, relationship, parenting, and child development education is not readily available to this population and isa gap that needs to be filled.Love Notes was written specifically for young mothers and parents. This research based program covers child development, parenting, and relationship skills. We are happy to supply you with review materials to aid in your grant preparation. Please let us know if we can be helpful to you in crafting your state, territory, or tribe’s proposal.With all good wishes,Kay ReedExecutive DirectorPS: Check out our good deals on the updated Connections: Dating and Emotions and the new What’s Reel? programs!

Dibble programs named to two major lists

Connections: Relationshipsand Marriage named Model Program The Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention has rated Connections: Relationships and Marriage as “promising” in the federal Model Program Guide (MPG). The MPG is an easy-to-use informational resource tool that offers a database of scientifically proven programs to address a variety of youth problems. Connections was reviewed and scored along several effectiveness dimensions, including the following:

  • The conceptual framework of the program
  • The program fidelity
  • The evaluation design
  • The empirical evidence demonstrating the prevention or reduction of problem behavior; the reduction of risk factors related to problem behavior; or the enhancement of protective factors related to problem behavior.

Connections: Relationships and Marriage will be listed on the MPG database and on FindYouthInfo.gov inthe next few months. When listed, we will send out the link!Love U2®: Relationship Smarts PLUS and The Art of Loving Well identified as high quality for after-school programs.The California After School Resource Center has identified Love U2: Relationship Smarts PLUS and The Art of Loving well as high quality for after-school programs after a review by experts in the field. California schools and afterschool programs can check out a copy to review or use at http://www.californiaafterschool.org.

Dating Older Boys

A recent Journal of Adolescence study called “Dating and Disclosure” says when it comes to sharing details aboutdating, girls talk more to their parents and it’s more likely to be mom. Sure, most parents would like their kids to kiss and tell. Some parents really worry when their daughters go out with an older boy. According to a study, it turnsout they have good reason to be worried.

College Students on Dating vs. Hooking UpRecently, researchers have documented the phenomenon of “hooking up” on college campuses in the United States and how it is replacing traditional dating as the primary form of romantic interaction between the two sexes.1 A “hook up” is characterized by a sexual encounter, usually occurring between people who just met or are casual acquaintances, for which there is no expectation of future commitment. This is in contrast to dating, a more formal process, in which one person asks another person to accompany them on “a date” and generally includes the possibility of developing a relationship.1

1. Bradshaw C, Kahn AS, Saville BK. To hook up or date: which gender benefits? Sex Roles 2010;62:661-669.

All-in-One Marriage PrepWonderful wisdom for young people of marrying age.Many marriage experts (Gary Chapman, John Van Epp, Susan Heitler, etc) are featuredin a new book, All-in-One Marriage Prep: 75 Experts Share Tips and Wisdom to Help You Get Ready Now.In honor of the contributions of the experts to book, and in memory of Craig A. Farnsworth, the author, Susanne Alexander, is donating a portion of the profits from this book to The Dibble Institute.Thank you, Susanne, for supporting our mission!Have questions about the proposed federal Fatherhood, Marriage, and Families Innovation Fund?The Department of Health and Human Services has answers. Get the FAQS here.

Nebraska is so smart!Nebraska recently passed LB 63 charging schools to provide “training to staff” deemed appropriate about bullying and dating violence.Training teachers to equip teens with the skills they need to build respectful, healthy relationship is certainly a positive way to prevent dating violence. Our research indicates that interpersonal violence both physical and verbal is reduced when teens get smart about their love lives.Go Cornhuskers!

Text messages become a growing weapon in dating violence By Donna St. George, Washington Post Staff Writer, Monday, June 21, 2010; B02The text messages to the 22-year-old Virginia woman arrived during the day and night, sometimes 20 or 30at once. Her ex-boyfriend wanted her back. He would not be refused. He texted and called 758 times.In New York, a 17-year-old trying to break up with her boyfriend got fewer messages, but they were menacing.”You don’t need nobody else but me,” read one. Another threatened to kill her.It is all part of what is increasingly called “textual harassment,” a growing aspect of dating violence at a time when cell phones and unlimited texting plans are ubiquitous among the young. It can be insidious, because messages pop up at the sender’s will: Where r u? Who r u with? Why didnt u answer me? Read more. (Ed. Note: Makes teaching young people early about how to build healthy romances and to leave unhealthy relationships so essential to their safety!)

Save the dates –

The Dibble Institute Calendar

July 19 – 22, 2010North Carolina Career & Technical Education Summer ConferenceGreensboro, NCExhibitJuly 26, 2010Virginia Family Consumer Sciences Summer InstituteVirginia Beach, VAWorkshop: Relationship Smarts PLUSPresenter: Natalie Middleton July 26, 2010Iowa Family & Consumer Sciences Educators for ProgressDes Moines, IAWorkshop: Healthy Choices, HealthyRelationshipsPresenter: Joyce Huff Director of OutreachJuly 26 – 29, 2010Missouri Association for Career & Technical EducationSpringfield, MOWorkshop: Healthy Choices, HealthyRelationshipsPresenter: Nancy Lenk – Outreach Educator August 3 – 4, 2010Texas Family & Consumer SciencesTeachers AssociationDallas, TXWorkshop: Stress! Yours or Your Students?Presenter: Joyce Huff – Director of OutreachOctober 7 – 8, 2010Idaho AHPERD ConferenceBoise, IDWorkshop:  This Is Your Brain!Presenter: Nancy Lenk – Outreach EducatorOctober 26 – 29, 2010Healthy Teen Network 31st Annual ConferenceAustin, TXWorkshop: A Time of Opportunity; EngagingCommunities in Supporting Healthy Youth and Young FamiliesPresenters: Marline Pearson & Joyce Huff