Love Notes v3.0

Relationships Skills for Love, Life, and Work

Course Outline

  • Introduction to Love Notes v
  • Instructor Tips xii
  • Love Notes Video and Resource Guide xv
  • Lesson 1: Relationships Today 1
    • Relationships Today
    • Defining a Vision
    • Choosing Reds or Greens?
    • Film Opportunity
  • Lesson 2: Knowing Yourself 25
    • Good Relationships Start with You
    • Understanding My Personality Style
    • Examining Family Origin
  • Lesson 3: My Expectations—My Future 47
    • What’s Important?
    • The Power of Expectations
    • Myself—My Future
  • Lesson 4: Attractions and Starting Relationships 63
    • Relationship Pyramid
    • The Chemistry of Attraction
  • Lesson 5: Principles of Smart Relationships 85
    • Smart or Not-So-Smart?
    • Seven Principles of Smart Relationships
    • Seven Questions to Ask
    • Three Sides of Love
  • Lesson 6: Is It a Healthy Relationship? 107
    • How Can You Tell?
    • Having Fun—It’s Important!
    • Breaking Up
  • Lesson 7: Dangerous Love 131
    • Early Warnings and Red Flags
    • Violence: Why it Happens, What Helps, Signs of Greatest Danger
    • Dangerous Love: Impact on Children
    • Draw the Line of Respect
    • Sexual Assault
  • Lesson 8: Decide, Don’t Slide! 163The Low-Risk Approach to Relationships
    • The High Costs of Sliding
    • The Low-Risk Deciding Approach
    • Making Decisions
    • The Success Sequence
  • Lesson 9: What’s Communication 189 Got
    to Do With It?

    • What’s Communication Got to Do with It?
    • Angry Brains and the Power of Time Outs
    • The Speaker Listener Technique—When Talking is Difficult
  • Lesson 10: Communication Challenges 217
    and More Skills

    • Communication Patterns Learned in Family
    • Complain and Raise Issues Effectively
    • Hidden Issues: What Pushes Your Button?
    • A Problem-Solving Model
    • A Brief Review
  • Lesson 11: Let’s Talk About Sex 239
    • Let’s Talk About Sex… and Sliding
    • The Six Parts of Intimacy
    • Emotional Risks and Emotional Benefits
    • Are We on the Same Page?
    • Am I Ready?
    • Drawing Intimacy Lines and Pacing Relationships
  • Lesson 12: Let’s Plan for Choices 275
    • Test Your Sex Smarts
    • STDs and HIV Are for Real
    • Risky Situations
    • Pressure Situations—Assertiveness Skills
    • My Personal Plan
  • Lesson 13: Through the Eyes of a Child 317
    • Child Looking for a Family
    • What about Fathers?
    • Father Absence, Relationship Troubles
    • Child Speak: Brighter Futures
    • Decisions about Living Together
    • Planning for Success—Wrap-Up
  • Appendix 367
    • Teens, Technology and Social Media Supplemental Appendix Lesson
    • In-depth Film Guide for Antwone Fisher
    • About the Author
    • Acknowledgements
    • Colored Activity Cards