Love Notes v3.0
Relationships Skills for Love, Life, and Work
Course Outline
- Introduction to Love Notes v
- Instructor Tips xii
- Love Notes Video and Resource Guide xv
- Lesson 1: Relationships Today 1
- Relationships Today
- Defining a Vision
- Choosing Reds or Greens?
- Film Opportunity
- Lesson 2: Knowing Yourself 25
- Good Relationships Start with You
- Understanding My Personality Style
- Examining Family Origin
- Lesson 3: My Expectations—My Future 47
- What’s Important?
- The Power of Expectations
- Myself—My Future
- Lesson 4: Attractions and Starting Relationships 63
- Relationship Pyramid
- The Chemistry of Attraction
- Lesson 5: Principles of Smart Relationships 85
- Smart or Not-So-Smart?
- Seven Principles of Smart Relationships
- Seven Questions to Ask
- Three Sides of Love
- Lesson 6: Is It a Healthy Relationship? 107
- How Can You Tell?
- Having Fun—It’s Important!
- Breaking Up
- Lesson 7: Dangerous Love 131
- Early Warnings and Red Flags
- Violence: Why it Happens, What Helps, Signs of Greatest Danger
- Dangerous Love: Impact on Children
- Draw the Line of Respect
- Sexual Assault
- Lesson 8: Decide, Don’t Slide! 163The Low-Risk Approach to Relationships
- The High Costs of Sliding
- The Low-Risk Deciding Approach
- Making Decisions
- The Success Sequence
- Lesson 9: What’s Communication 189 Got
to Do With It?- What’s Communication Got to Do with It?
- Angry Brains and the Power of Time Outs
- The Speaker Listener Technique—When Talking is Difficult
- Lesson 10: Communication Challenges 217
and More Skills- Communication Patterns Learned in Family
- Complain and Raise Issues Effectively
- Hidden Issues: What Pushes Your Button?
- A Problem-Solving Model
- A Brief Review
- Lesson 11: Let’s Talk About Sex 239
- Let’s Talk About Sex… and Sliding
- The Six Parts of Intimacy
- Emotional Risks and Emotional Benefits
- Are We on the Same Page?
- Am I Ready?
- Drawing Intimacy Lines and Pacing Relationships
- Lesson 12: Let’s Plan for Choices 275
- Test Your Sex Smarts
- STDs and HIV Are for Real
- Risky Situations
- Pressure Situations—Assertiveness Skills
- My Personal Plan
- Lesson 13: Through the Eyes of a Child 317
- Child Looking for a Family
- What about Fathers?
- Father Absence, Relationship Troubles
- Child Speak: Brighter Futures
- Decisions about Living Together
- Planning for Success—Wrap-Up
- Appendix 367
- Teens, Technology and Social Media Supplemental Appendix Lesson
- In-depth Film Guide for Antwone Fisher
- About the Author
- Acknowledgements
- Colored Activity Cards