March 2010 Newsletter

Building Healthy Relationship Skills Newsletter – March 2010

  • Distressed about sexting
  • Relationship skills as an anti-poverty step
  • Special Love Notes trainings
  • Free Baby Borrowers DVD and Guide
  • That’s Not Cool contest
  • Attention: Young MN filmmakers
  • TDI Calendar

Dear friends,Distressed about sexting?The Pew Research Center released a report last month on sexting and older teens. They reported that older teens are particularly vulnerable to “sexting”, the practice of sending sexually suggestive or explicit photos or videos via cell phone.Particularly heartbreaking is that the messages are often sent by teens involved in or hoping for a romantic relationship with the recipient. Obviously these teens need to learn healthy romantic relationship skills!In the survey, teens also described the pressure they feel to share these types of images. One high school girl wrote: “When I was about 14-15 years old, I received/sent these types of pictures. Boys usually ask for them or start that type of conversation. My boyfriend, or someone I really liked, asked for them. And I felt like if I didn’t do it, they wouldn’t continue to talk to me. At the time, it was no big deal. But now looking back, it was definitely inappropriate and over the line.”You can make and be the difference for these searching young people!Consider using The Dibble Institute’s newest offering, Healthy Choices, Healthy Relationships that tackles digital and social media head on. The course helps teens evaluate various media, cultural, and family influences that shape their expectations about love and life and chart a healthy route to the future.Or, introduce your teens to the That’s Not Cool website on digital media abuse and encourage them to enter the contest described below.Take the lead in helping your teens develop positive attachments!Thanks for all your good work.With all warm wishes,Kay ReedExecutive Director

National Campaign policy brief recommends healthy relationship skills as part of poverty reduction and pregnancy prevention efforts.Many elected officials, experts, and advocates are committed to reducing poverty and improving mobility in the United States, but too many overlook how – and under what circumstances – families get started in the first place.  This new policy brief examines the link between poverty and teen and unplanned pregnancy and recommends possible strategies to help teens and young adults delay childbearing until they are prepared to become parents.One policy strategy recommended in this brief is to promote and teach healthy relationships skills to community college students as well as within Workforce Investment Act and other youth development and workforce initiatives.Take a look! Briefly – Policy Brief: The Link Between Reducing Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy and Poverty

Special Love Notes Trainings – open to the publicTake advantage of two rare opportunities to train directly with Marline Pearson on Love Notes, her new relationship skills program for young adults and young parents.Marline will be at the University of Montana, Missoula, on March 15-17 and at the Smart Marriages Conference in Orlando on July 7-8.Marline begins the Missoula training Monday night at 7:30 with an overview on “Safe, Smart Healthy Relationships: The Missing Piece for Helping At-Risk Youth Experience Success”. The training continues all day Tuesday and Wednesday. To register or for information, contact Trudi Garner, at 406-243-4205 or Orlando Smart Marriage training will be held at the Rosen Shingle Creek Resort. The Love Notes Training Institute runs from 8:30 to 5:30 on July 7 and 8.Don’t miss out on these open to the public opportunities! Register now.

Free! The Baby Borrowers –Season One DVD and Discussion GuideIn partnership with The Dibble Institute, The National Campaign is offering the hit NBC series The Baby Borrowers free of charge for use as an educational tool.  Each DVD comes with a discussion guide so teens can watch the show and discuss what they have seen.  The discussion guide questions focus primarily on the relationships of the couples that appear in the show.  The guide also asks viewers to reflect on their own romantic relationships.  Click here for more information on The Baby Borrowers. Available while supplies last.  Allow 4-6 weeks for delivery. Click here to order your copy.Funding for this project was provided by the United States Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, Grant Number: 90-FE-0024. Any opinions, findings, and conclusions or recommendations expressed in this material are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the United States Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families.

Encourage teens to creatively draw their digital linesMore teens than ever are subject to controlling and sometimes abusive digital behavior. Last year, in partnership with the Department of Justice’s Office on Violence Against Women and the Advertising Council, the Family Violence Prevention Fund (FVPF) developed That’s Not Cool, a national public service advertising campaign designed to help teens recognize digital dating abuse and take steps to prevent it. Now the National Football League Players Association (NFLPA) is joining the FVPF for a Callout Card (e-cards with a message) Contest, designed to engage even more youth in this campaign.That’s Not Cool includes an interactive website, mobile phone component, television, radio, posters in schools and malls, and online ads all designed to help youth recognize digital dating abuse and give them tools to avoid it. The campaign’s Public Service Announcements direct audiences to There, teens can find resources to “draw their own digital line” and a forum to discuss this form of abuse and seek help. The campaign has generated nearly 70,000 website visitors each month with tens of thousands of those teens sending That’s Not Cool Callout Cards to their friends and dating partners.The new contest is for teens age 13 to 18. The deadline to enter is March 15. Submission information is available at

Attention: Young MN FilmmakersShow what it means to be a healthy young personIf you are teaching healthy relationship skills in Minnesota, here’s an opportunity for your students, ages 13 to 24, to create and submit video public service announcements to Minnesota Organization on Adolescent Pregnancy, Prevention and Parenting (MOAPPP).Videos must respond to the question: “what does it mean to be a healthy young person today?” and focus on an area of adolescent sexual health such as: healthy relationships, pregnancy prevention, STDs, HIV/AIDS, teen parenting.Click here for more information.If one of your students does submit an entry, please let us know! Wed love to feature their work on the Dibble website as well!

The Dibble Institute CalendarMarch 4-7California Alliance for Health, Physical Education, Recreation and Dance Ontario, CAInformation and Registration: www.CAHPERD.orgExhibitors:   Charlotte Worley –Outreach EducatorChar Kamper –Author, Healthy Choices Healthy RelationshipsMarch 13-15Society of State Directors of, Physical Education, Recreation and Dance24th Annual MeetingIndianapolis, INExhibit – Irene Varley – Director of EducationMarch 15-17University of Montana, Counseling EducationMissoula, MTTraining: Love NotesTrainer: Marline Pearson – AuthorMarch 16-20American Alliance for Health, Physical Education, Recreation and Dance 125th National Convention & Exposition Indianapolis, INInformation and Registration: www.AAHPERD.comWorkshop: Topics in Teen NeurosciencePresenter: Char Kamper –Author, Healthy Choices Healthy RelationshipsApril 7–9National School Social Worker ConferenceSt. Louis, MOInformation and Registration: www.NSSW.orgExhibitor: Nancy Lenk –Outreach EducatorApril 8-10PA Annual Family and Consumer Science ConferencePittsburgh, PAInformation and Registration: ehw.pafcs.orgWorkshop: Relationship Skills Education: Developing a cultural roadmap (though the jungle)Presenter: Irene Varley –Director of EducationApril 8 -9Iowa Association of Alternative EducationDes Moines, IAInformation and Registration: www.iaae.orgWorkshop: “Working with Teen Parents and high Risk Students”Presenter: Joyce Huff –Director of OutreachApril 28 – May 1Boost ConferencePalm Springs, CAInformation and Registration: www.Boostconference.orgWorkshop: The Missing Link: Relationship EducationPresenter: Charlotte Worley –Outreach EducatorMay 18-20Adolescent Pregnancy Prevention ConferenceGreensboro, NCInformation and Registration: www.appcnc.orgWorkshop: Love NotesPresenter: Jessica Pool – Director of ProgramsJune 25 – 27Stop Girl Bullying & other forms of Relational Agression, National ConferenceSan Antonio, TXInformation and Registration: www.stopgirlbullying.comWorkshop: The Missing Link: Relationship EducationPresenter: Charlotte Worley –Outreach EducatorJune 27 South Carolina Education and Business Summit Greenville, SCInformation and Registration: http://www.ebsummit.infoWorkshop: Smart Communication Leading to Success in Home, Heart and WorkPresenter: Jessica Pool – Director of ProgramsJuly 7-11 Smart Marriages 14th Annual Conference Orlando, FLInformation and Registration: www.SmartMarriages.comJuly 7 & 8Institute: Love NotesPresenter: Marline Pearson, MAJuly 9Workshops:

Money Habitudes: The Last Taboo Presenter: Syble Solomon, MEdLove Notes Presenter: Marline Pearson, MAPrepare-Enrich-Inspire for Teens Presenters: Jessica Pool, MS and Amy Olson-Sigg, MA

July 11 Workshop: Healthy Choices, Healthy Relationships Presenter: Char Kamper, MA, CFLEJuly 26, 2010 Iowa Family & Consumer Sciences Educators for Progress Des Moines, IAInformation and Registration contact Kristie KuhseWorkshop: Healthy Choices, Healthy RelationshipsPresenter: Joyce Huff – Director of OutreachNeed a Speaker? The Dibble Institute can customize a keynote, plenary, or workshop to meet the individual needs of your organization. Our presentations are interactive, high-paced and exciting!Simply let us know what you are trying to accomplish and we will do our best to get you there.For more information, please contact Irene Varley, Director of Education, at 614-204-7574 (M-F, 9:00 am to 5:00 pm, Eastern Time).

About The Dibble InstituteThe Dibble Institute for Marriage Education, a nonprofit organization, helps young people learn how to create healthy romantic relationships now and in the future.We offer tools for teaching the practical skills essential for enhancing friendships, dating and love. Just as important, we assist teens in creating the personal vision that keeps them on a positive path.Dibble’s research based, best practices programs are widely used across the country in classrooms, social agencies, after school programs and other youth settings. We also actively advocate for including relationship education in school curricula.The Institute is nonpartisan and nonsectarian. Funding for our activities comes from sales of educational materials, training, and consulting services. We also enjoy support from government grants and gifts from foundations, corporations, and individuals.What we do:

  • Develop and distribute research-based curricula designed for classroom, community agency, youth and church groups.
  • Consult on implementation strategies for teaching youth relationship skills.
  • Publish a free online newsletter.
  • Serve as a clearinghouse for youth relationship education – research, trends, grants, programs and general information.
  • Inform community and educational leaders in the benefits of relationship education.
  • Train teachers and others in using the Dibble programs.
  • Advocate for including relationship education in school curricula.

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