Newsletter: March 2009

Building Healthy Relationship Skills Newsletter – March 2009

  • Help teens connect financial literacy and relationship skills
  • Black Marriage Day is March 22
  • Help change the world… and get paid to do it!
  • National Day to Prevent Teen Pregnancy is May 6
  • Sliding vs. Deciding video
  • Listen to Char and Kay
  • Native American grant
  • The Dibble Institute calendar

Dear Friends,In these uncertain financial times, many of you are focusing on the all-important task of teaching teens financial literacy skills.  Bravo! As part of your instruction, we encourage you to teach teens that financial competency and relationship skills are intertwined.Here’s how:

  • Research from Rutgers University indicates that the majority of high school seniors want to marry and eventually will do so.
  • We know from the Institute for American Values, that married couples accumulate more wealth and married men earn more money than single men with similar education and job histories.
  • We know that money is the source of conflicts for many couples.
  • Research shows that teaching couples how to communicate and resolve conflicts productively on all the hot topics, including finances, strengthens their relationship and reduces stress levels.

Now the good news! Connections:  Relationships and Marriage will help you teach teens the skills needed to navigate financial challenges and develop successful relationships at the same time!  It includes lessons on family budgeting, problem solving, effective communication skills, crisis management, and more.Another resource for teaching financial and relationship skills is our new board game: Relationality. Through role-playing and realistic scenarios, teens and adults experience the results of life choices – including financial crisis – while having fun!We will be celebrating Black Marriage Day on March 22. This gives us a special opportunity to focus on preparing African American teens for healthy relationships and marriage.Consider teaching Love U2: Relationship Smarts PLUS! According to Dr. Jennifer Kerpelman of Auburn University, lead investigator of a five-year federally funded evaluation study of the program:

“…our pre-post tests show that the curriculum is effective for both Caucasian and African American youth.  We also find that feedback obtained from teacher interviews and student focus groups supports the effectiveness of Relationship Smarts Plus with diverse youth.

Or for a quick but powerful lesson, read your teens “Welcome” from The Art of Loving Well. “Welcome”, set in the African American community, depicts a teen coping with financial and emotional crisis: the breakup of her parent’s marriage and the unwed pregnancy of a destitute friend. Students connect this story’s issues to choices in real life and the skills necessary to achieve healthy relationshipsAs always, we hope you’ll send us your comments and suggestions. And thanks for your support!Onward!Kay ReedExecutive Director


Change the World and Get Paid to Do It!WHAT? The First Comes Love award program returns to the Smart Marriage conference in Orlando! Successful applicants will receive:• FREE Connections or Love U2® program• FREE 40 student workbooks• $200 Benchmark Payment upon successful completion• Complete day-long training in up to two nationally recognized programs!HOW? 1.   Apply for The Dibble Institute’s “First Comes Love” program. 2.   Enroll in our two-day Training Institute on July 7 and 8 at the Smart Marriage Conference in Orlando, FL. Details.

July 7, 2009Connections: Dating & Emotions, training by Char Kamper, authorLove U2®: Baby Smarts, training by Marline Pearson, authorJuly 8, 2009Connections: Relationships & Marriage, training by Char Kamper, authorLove U2®: Relationship Smarts PLUS, training by Marline Pearson, author

WHAT do you have to do? Simple…the good work of teaching teens healthy relationship skills. You must currently be working with youth, reach 40 teens by May 30, 2010 by teaching one of the curricula with fidelity, report back to The Dibble Institute, and get a benchmark payment worth $200!Funding for this project was provided by the United States Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, Grant Number: 90-FE-0024. Any opinions, findings, and conclusions or recommendations expressed in this material are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the United States Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families.


Mark your calendar and plan ahead – May 6, 2009 is National Day to Prevent Teen Pregnancy!Teen pregnancy rose three percent between 2005 and 2006—the first increase after 14 years of steady decline! Help teens think beyond sex, contraception, and the possibility of pregnancy, to the risks to children born of young parents.  By participating in the National Day activities, teens will be encouraged to get smart about their love lives.On the National Day and throughout May, teens nationwide will be asked to go to The National Campaign’s teen website and take a short, scenario-based quiz (available in English and Spanish). The quiz challenges young people to consider what they would do in a number of relationship and sexual situations.  Hundreds of thousands of teens are expected to participate nationwide. Tell your teens to stay tuned to http://www.stayteen.org/ for the quiz.


Sliding vs. Deciding…Watch this PSA created and performed by teens!Here’s a FREE attention grabbing and fun video short created by teens in Alabama that beautifully illustrates author Marline Pearson’s ‘Sliding versus Deciding’ lesson. Show it for a quick conversation starter, entree to the Love U2® curricula, or complement to National Day to Prevent Teen Pregnancy!


Listen Up! Live radio interview with Char Kamper and Kay ReedYou can tune in on-line to hear Char and Kay talk about contemporary teen relationship concerns and why it’s so critical to teach teens healthy relationship skills.  Recorded in an August 2008 interview with Dr. Jeffrey Low on radio KSVY, you’ll learn how to make the case for relationship education!


Family Preservation Funding Announcements from ACF’s Administration for Native Americans Please note this grant allows for teen activities. The Dibble Institute is happy to provide technical assistance to applicants who want to include youth programming in their applications.  Email Joyce Huff, joyce@dibbleinstitute.org for assistance.


The Dibble Institute Calendar March 5United Associations ConferenceHumboldt, KSDeAnn Hauser 620-473-3829Presenter: Joyce HuffMarch 6, 8am – 2pmNative Challenge California Area Indian Health Services, Banning, CABrighton Ncube 951-751-5290Love U2®: Relationship Smarts PLUS Trainers: Irene VarleyMarch 24Oklahoma Marriage InitiativeOklahoma City, OKNatalie Middleton 405-848-2171Healthy Choices, Healthy Relationships Pilot TrainingTrainer: Char KamperMarch 30 2009 Conscious Relationship Summit Here’s a great opportunity to listen to Kay Reed and Charlene Kamper speak about teens and healthy relationships without leaving home on March 30! Relationship Coaching Institute is hosting a virtual conscious relationship conference March 30-April 3, 2009 with 35 speakers and 5 tracks, all top experts in the relationship and personal growth fields (think Smart Marriages by telephone).Speakers: Kay Reed and Charlene KamperApril 21Indiana Family Consumer ScienceIndianapolis, IN“Don’t Worry, It’s Just My First Wedding”Presenters: Natalie Middleton and Irene VarleyApril 22 – 25 Boost Out of School Time ConferencePalm Springs Convention CenterPalm Springs, CAChristine McKennaJoin one of the nation’s largest and most recognized conferences for after school and out-of-school time professionals.Relationship Skills: The Missing LinkWorkshop presenter: Carol JacksonApril 29MI Alternative Education ConferenceRuss Averill“Love: At What Price?”Workshop Presenter: Irene VarleyJune 6Wyoming Family Consumer Science Pre-ConferenceWestern Wyoming Community CollegeRock Springs, WYMichelle AldrichWhy Buy the Cow? and Love U2®: Baby Smarts Trainer: Joyce HuffJuly 7 – 8Smart Marriages 13th Annual Conference 200 of the top marriage and relationship experts from across the country.Shingle Creek Resort HotelOrlando, FLSchool & Youth Marriage Education Programs, Kay Reed, chairCLICK FOR FLYER to post in your communityCONNECTIONS – Char Kamper, MALove U2® – Marline Pearson, MA – We have to start with the kids! Get trained research-based programs teach students the skills and knowledge that are central to building and maintaining healthy marriages. Curricula easily adapted to classroom, church, agency, and youth group settings. Each of these programs meets the Federal criteria for youth relationship education. Click for more information on the three training options.Need a Speaker? The Dibble Institute can customize a keynote, plenary, or workshop to meet the individual needs of your organization. Our presentations are interactive, high-paced and exciting!Simply let us know what you are trying to accomplish and we will do our best to get you there.For more information, please contact Irene Varley, Director of Education, at 941-360-1859 (M-F, 9:00 am to 5:00 pm, Eastern Time).


The Dibble Institute, a 501c3 non-profit organization, is dedicated to promoting healthy relationships and helping teens make wise choices! All of our materials are free of political or religious bias. Visit our Website & Catalog atwww.DibbleInstitute.org, or call 1-800-695-7975.Our research based, best practice, developmentally appropriate programs – being taught across the country – teach students the skills and knowledge that are central to building and maintaining healthy romances and, eventually, marriages. Curricula are easily adapted to classroom, church, community, agency and youth group settings and are appropriate for Family and Consumer Science, career prep and English teachers; youth agency workers; independent living coordinators; abstinence and teen pregnancy prevention workers; camp and after school program staff; Healthy Marriage, CBAE, and Head Start grantees; youth pastors; social workers; and parents. Our activities are funded through sales of educational materials and services and through support from foundations, corporations and individuals.©2009 The Dibble Institute – Phone: 1-800-695-7975